20 Texts To Send After Your First Date
By: Kratika Wed, 16 Sept 2020 3:43 PM
First dates can be brutal or they can be a breath of fresh air. Whether you want a second date or not, here are 21 texts to send after a first date.
First dates are always new territory. No matter how many first dates you’ve been on, you never know what to expect with someone new. Sure, sometimes things go south, but sometimes a first date can be a glorious start to something great. No matter which way it goes, you’ll want to know what texts to send after a first date.
Are you eager to see them again? Are you feeling unsure or do you want to make sure you never see them again? Any and all of the outcomes of a first date require a follow-up text. But it can be hard to know what to say. That’s what I’m here for.
Generic texts to send after a first date
It is okay if after the first date you aren’t completely sure if you want to see them again. Maybe the date was fine, but you didn’t have a spark. You may want to think about if you want to try again or move on.
That is totally okay. Don’t feel bad that you aren’t sure. But also don’t ghost your date because you aren’t sure what to say.
* “I had a nice time tonight. I hope you made it home safely.” There is nothing in this text that says you are super into them nor are you foregoing a second date altogether. This is a polite and friendly way to check-in after a first date when you aren’t really sure of your intentions.
* “I hope you had a nice time tonight.” This is another way to text after a first date without insinuating anything. With this, you’ll also get to feel out how the date went for them. Maybe if they felt a connection you’d want to give a second date a try, but if not you can move on.
* “That restaurant was so good. I’m glad we tried it.” Instead of talking about your lack of connection or confusion, just chat casually. Talk about the food, the bizarre waiter you had or how you already dove into your leftovers.
This keeps things pressure-free. Then, you can keep talking without jumping right into the possibility of a second date.
* “How was the rest of your night?” Instead of sending a text right after the first date, wait until the next morning. Sleeping on it could give you a bit more clarity. Plus, you’ll be able to ask them how the rest of their night went, which gives you more ambiguous talking points.
* “I’m swamped with work this week, but if you want I’ll reach out when things free up?” If you’re still unsure of a second date, let them know your stance sooner rather than later. You don’t want to get their hopes up, but maybe you need some time to think.
With this text, you’re not only giving yourself some time to ponder but you are also leaving the ball in their court. If they aren’t into it, they may respond by letting you know they didn’t feel a spark. Or maybe they’re eager to make another date, which can help you make up your mind.
* “I had a great time. We should do it again sometime.” You can’t go wrong by keeping it simple and to the point. Start with something a little more general like this. If they agree, then try to nail down a more specific plan.
* “I hope you had as good of a time as I did tonight.” If you don’t want to go straight into asking for a second date, feel it out first. This is a great way to let them know you enjoyed yourself and want to make sure they did too.
* “That was the best first date I’ve ever had. Let’s see if we can keep that going with a second date.” This is a more fun and almost competitive way to ask your date out again. Trying to top your great first date can amp up your excitement and theirs.
* “Thanks for a great time. Maybe next week we can try that new restaurant you mentioned?” By bringing up something you talked about during the date, you are making things more comfortable and reminding them that you are actively listening. Offer to go somewhere they said they were interested in, like a new bar or museum. This will impress them. It most likely will get you that second date.
* “In case I forgot to tell you earlier, you looked great tonight.” Once a date is over, it is nice to know your date is still thinking of you. Sending this text after a first date will let them know you were awed by them.
* “I don’t know about you but that wasn’t really the best date for me. Good luck with everything.” If you are okay with having a conversation with this person, then this text is a great one after a failed first date. You can get some reassurance that the date wasn’t great for them either and part ways on good terms.
* “Good luck with your future dating adventures. Sorry I just didn’t feel it.” Send them off with well wishes and honesty. Remember, you’re not breaking up with them. You only just met. A simple text like this is perfectly fine after a not so great first date.
* “Hey I had a great time getting to know you but didn’t feel a spark. Maybe you’d like to join my friends and me for trivia night?” Once again, if you actually liked the person, just not romantically, let them know you’d like to keep hanging out but in a group setting. Invite them to trivia, your friends’ game night, or something similar.
This will feel less like rejection and more like gaining a friend you have something in common with.
* “Hey, you’re really great but I just don’t think we’re a match.” Offer a compliment before letting them down. You can keep it generic like this or be more specific like telling them how funny or stylish they are. Then let them know it just isn’t a good match.
* “Hey, I had a nice time, but I don’t want to lead you on. I’m not interested in pursuing this any further. I hope you understand.” When looking for the right text to send after a first date that wasn’t great, being straight forward is best. Letting them know you just want to move on and be honest right away can seem harsh. But they will appreciate the bluntness, especially if they’ve been ghosted before.
* “It was really nice to meet you, but I don’t see this working out. Good luck out there.” A polite yet professional text is ideal to send after a first date. You’re not too comfortable with each other and owe them respect but not much more. Text them the same way you would email someone offering you a job you’re not interested in.