5 Reasons Why Mens Are Scared To Get Married

What do you think is the biggest reason men avoid a committed relationship like marriage? No, it is not the thought of sharing the rest of their lives with one woman that concerns them. Rather the reasons are quite different than you can ever imagine. They are afraid of being second in your life and being bashed with your friends.

* Hate Commitment

Commitment seems to bore some men. They consider being committed to a woman as some sort of a chore or a boring routine. Men suffer from many such insecurities and fears and some even have a commitment phobia. Although, not all men have this type of fears, some need help and overcome it gradually with counseling and experience.

* Being Second in your Life

A general overview of married life involves kids, job, home and many other family responsibilities. Men mostly fear that after marriage, all these will become your top priority and they will be considered the second best. Being on the back burner is one of the biggest fears of men who keep on avoiding marriage according to psychotherapist Julie Orlov. You can help him shed such fears by promising him a one-to-one special session of at least half an hour every day after marriage so that his importance in your life is never compromised.

* Don’t Want you to Turn into His or Your Mother

Of course, every man loves the motherly affection and would always appreciate you for your abilities to handle kids or cook like his mother. But he would never want you to turn into another woman like his mother and especially not like your mother. It is simply because although he does not say so quite openly, these women do get on his nerves sometimes and he surely does not want to repeat the experience.

* Afraid of Taking Responsibilities

Most men fear the responsibilities that come with marriage. It takes time for them to realize that the responsibilities are inevitable and as they grow, they are going to be a part of their lives, with or without marriage. All the relationships, including the live-in or an affair demand you to behave responsibly. So, ultimately at some point in their lives, men get over with this fear and move on with the woman of their choice.

* Gossiping About Him with Your Friends

Men fear that their wives may use their girlfriends as sounding board, whenever their marriage is not working out well or going through a rough patch. Men do understand that their spouse would look for a lean shoulder when they are really fighting badly, but they are afraid of the husband bashing-session where you will badmouth about your dearest hubby. Men really fear that they will get the ‘bad guy’ title if their spouse takes up the issue with her girlfriends. Married women should instead talk in with their husbands when things calm down and make sure that the nitty-gritty sessions between them are never shared with anyone.