5 Tips To Have Stree Free Life While Dealing With In Laws
By: Pinki Thu, 28 May 2020 1:04 PM
It is extremely important to have a grip over things. Else, you will end up messed up forever. Unless you set clearly defined boundaries well within time, you will lose all control of the house as well as of your own self.
I have been married for a while, and know a thing or two about how to deal with in laws living with you. Being a mental health awareness crusader, I am also on the lookout for any woman who feels neglected because of having negativity around. All thanks to stereotyping of us by society after marriage.
I share a kind of bitter-sweet relationship with my husband’s family. Hence, I’d like to honestly share my learning, acquired after staying with in laws, in a hope to help fellow women. After all, we are all in this together.
So let us hold hands and hear each other out. If you have anything to ask or share, feel free to post your comments at the end of this post.
* Stop ‘being perfect’
One of the biggest mistakes new brides or even experienced daughter in laws commit is to push themselves too hard towards perfection in front of in laws. What needs to be understood is that perfection is a myth. So stop being so hard on yourselves.
Stay the way you are as a person. This way your in laws will learn to accept you in your true being. Else, you will end up being drained and mentally exhausted. Never ever try to be perfect.
* Set respectful boundaries
Setting boundaries is very important if you are living in the same household. Without setting proper boundaries from day one, you are voluntarily giving unlimited access to you, to anybody sharing the household.
Boundaries help in keeping a healthy distance from one another. Without having them, you will not only have your own peace ruined but will also not respect the peace of mind of any members living with you.
* Be assertive
Being assertive is crucial for one’s persona. Assertiveness implies that you are confident of yourself as a person.
Assertiveness does not mean that you bypass everybody else. It simply means to value your own beliefs and value systems as well. Remember that you cannot spend an entire lifetime being meek and silent.
* Don’t start fights
Please do not be in a habit of picking up fights. It is an irksome trait in a person.
Try being the bigger person and talking out things rather than arguing about them. Do not look for faults in others; look out for positives.
It is always better to stay calm, hear everyone out and then offer your stance, rather than not listening to anyone and being impatient. A family that solves issues calmly tends to be happier.
* Learn to let go
Letting go is a quality that will enable you to keep your peace of mind.
Letting go does not mean that you are weak. On the contrary, it indicates your strength as an individual. The more evolved you are as a person, the more easily you will be able to let go.
Be it situations, or people, or just emerging negativity, learn to let go with ease. Trust me, your life will be way happier and simpler. Losing one’s peace of mind is never a good thing.