6 Signs You Are Being Selfish In The Relationship
By: Pinki Mon, 22 Feb 2021 8:29 PM
It’s hard for a selfish person to see their selfish side. But these 6 signs will definitely tell you if you’re being selfish in your relationship!
It’s never easy to know if you’re being selfish or giving in a relationship.
After all, you have to understand that selfishness is more of a perspective than a matter of fact.
In the middle of a discussion with your lover, do you ever feel like you could give in, but choose not to give in only because you think it makes you appear weak?
Do you believe your partner would take you lightly or tread all over you if you constantly give in, even if the consequences of giving in make no difference to you?
Selfishness is sign of self gratification. If you’re too self centered and believe your needs are more important than everyone else’s needs, you’re probably a selfish person even if you don’t think so.
The first step to stop being selfish is realization. You need to realize that as big or difficult as your problems may seem to you, to someone else, their own problems may appear just as demanding or difficult.
Are you usually excited to do something you enjoy? And if it’s something your partner wants to do that you’re not particularly excited about, do you get bored or restless easily and try to squirm out of it?
It could be something as simple as a chore or shopping for clothes together. If only the things you enjoy excites you, but sharing your partner’s happiness from the things that they enjoy don’t matter to you, that’s a good sign that you’re a rather selfish person.
# Your partner usually gives in
Every time there’s a discussion about something to do or someplace to go to, do you usually end up getting things your way even if that means leaving your partner sad or less-than-happy?
Your partner may give in each time because they love you unconditionally and want to see you happy. But it’s only a matter of time before they start to feel like their wants and desires are not addressed in the relationship.
# You believe your partner nags you
Do you ever find your partner repeating the same things to you several times, little seemingly insignificant lines like “can you pick up the towel?” or “did you forget that…?”
It could be irritating to hear your partner nag you all the time, but each time they nag, you need to realize that they’re not trying to annoy you, they’re only doing it because you aren’t listening to them. There are no naggers in happy relationships because both lovers try to keep each other happy, even if it means going out of the way once in a while.
# You believe what you do in life is more meaningful and worthwhile
You may have a better job or get a bigger paycheck, but that doesn’t mean you should get preferential treatment in the relationship. If you truly believe that you’re more important and your opinions matter more, you’re being conceited and selfish.
# Your partner is flawed
You see your partner as flawed and expect them to change for you probably because you believe they aren’t good enough for you. Even if you have the same flaws yourself, you believe those flaws aren’t so significant in your case.
A good example here is weight gain. You may want your partner to lose weight because you believe they look less-than-appealing right now. On the other hand, you may be obese, and yet, you may not believe you need to change or look better for your partner.
# You want it your way
You always like doing something your way or going to places you like even if your partner wants to do something different. If your partner coaxes you to do something else or go to a different place, you sulk or pout the whole while. And as soon as your partner gives in to your bidding and does what you say, you cheer up instantly and cozy up with your partner.
Your partner may feel good at that moment when you display your affection to them, but on the inside, all they’d be thinking is just how much of a spoilt brat you are!