Falling in love should make you feel whole—not like you’re constantly treading on eggshells. And staying in love should bring a sense of joy and comfort every single day.
If that’s not how you feel, something might be off.
Of course, every relationship has its share of minor arguments and misunderstandings. But even in those moments, you should still feel secure in the love you share.
But what if you feel like you're always on edge? What if you're constantly uncertain about the future of your relationship, even when things appear fine on the surface?
Sometimes, when you're deeply in love, you might not realize just how much effort you're pouring in to keep everything “perfect.”
Stop overextending yourself just to hold the relationship together. True happiness in love should feel natural. Take a step back once in a while. Let your partner show you how much they care, and don’t allow them to take your presence for granted.
Go through the following signs. If many of them resonate with you, it might mean you're walking on eggshells in your relationship—and it’s time to pause and ask yourself if this is truly where you want to be.
# Constant WorryDo you often worry about where your relationship stands? If you're scared your partner might leave you, and nothing you do seems to change that fear, it might be time to consider walking away.
Living in fear and confusion, never knowing if your love will last another day, is no way to live.
# Emotional ManipulationIt’s one thing if your partner playfully nudges you into watching their favorite movie. But if they constantly twist situations to make you feel like you’re at fault—or gaslight you into questioning your own feelings—that’s manipulation.
If you’re aware it’s happening and you still go along with it to keep the peace, you're sacrificing your own well-being.
# Holding BackDo you hesitate to share your thoughts or feelings because you’re afraid of upsetting your partner?
Suppressing your voice to avoid conflict won’t save the relationship. It only gives your partner more control and weakens your own self-worth.
# Growing SuspicionAre you suspicious of your partner’s actions? While it could be insecurity, it might also be your gut instinct warning you.
A healthy relationship shouldn’t be filled with doubt. If you’re constantly questioning their intentions, it may be a sign that something’s fundamentally wrong.
# Persistent UnhappinessDoes your relationship leave you feeling down or unfulfilled? If fear of being alone is the only reason you’re holding on, then the relationship is already failing you.
Love should lift you up—not leave you emotionally drained.
# Deep InsecuritiesDo you feel jealous or insecure when your partner talks to someone attractive? That might stem from your own issues—or it could be triggered by how your partner treats you.
Regardless of who’s at fault, unchecked insecurity will only keep you walking on eggshells.
# Ignoring FlawsRelationships thrive when both partners help each other grow. If you constantly overlook your partner’s flaws or make excuses for their bad behavior, you’re enabling them.
True love involves honesty—helping each other improve, not hiding behind denial.
# Unequal Decision-MakingIn a healthy relationship, both voices matter. If your partner is making all the decisions and you’re just going along, you may feel powerless.
That imbalance can lead to resentment and deepen emotional distance.
# Always Trying to PleaseAre you constantly trying to please your partner to win their love or approval? Love should be mutual—giving and receiving in balance.
If your needs are always taking a backseat, you might start feeling more like a servant than a partner. Stand up for your own desires and value yourself as an equal.
# Doing Anything for LoveDo you believe you'll do anything to keep the relationship alive? That kind of self-sacrifice often leads to emotional exhaustion.
Love should never feel like a one-sided effort. If you’re working too hard while your partner coasts, your happiness will eventually suffer.