10 Things to Keep in Mind When You Bumped Into Your Ex

You might still be in love with your ex — or you might totally despise them.

But no matter how you feel, running into an ex is always bound to stir up a mix of awkwardness, nostalgia, and thoughts of reconciliation… or revenge.

The worst part? The anxiety that hits you out of nowhere — unless, of course, you’re completely over them.

Your heart starts racing so fast it drowns out your own thoughts. You get clammy, uncomfortable, and nothing you say sounds remotely right.

If you want to walk away from that unexpected run-in feeling cool, calm, and collected — even like a rock star — there are 10 things you should keep in mind. Stick to these and you’ll handle it like a pro.

# Keep it Short and Sweet

Don’t drag out the conversation. Be friendly, polite, even warm — but brief.
There’s no need to dive into your life story. You broke up for a reason. Chances are, they aren’t eager to rehash things either. So smile, say a quick hello, and keep it moving.

# Mentally Prepare

If you haven’t bumped into them yet but know it’s only a matter of time — maybe you work together or share a social circle — prep your mind.
Picture the scene. Plan your small talk. Know how you’ll respond. This mental rehearsal helps keep you steady when the moment comes.

# Don’t Overanalyze

Exes can be cryptic — throwing shade, dropping hints, or flirting with nostalgia.
Don’t get caught up trying to read their intentions. Take their words at face value and don’t spiral into assumptions. Especially if you didn’t want the breakup, it’s easy to overthink. Just stay grounded.

# Let Go of Bitterness

Unless they truly destroyed you, it’s healthier to let go of resentment.
Even if they lied or cheated, carrying that bitterness only holds you back. It’s hard, yes. But letting go helps you show up with grace and peace when you cross paths again.

# Exude Confidence

Everyone wants their ex to think, “Wow, they’re thriving without me.”
Even if your love life is currently in hibernation, project happiness and self-assurance. Stand tall, smile wide, and own the room like your life is fabulous — even if it’s a work in progress.

# Don’t Engage in Drama

Old habits die hard — especially if fights were frequent. But don’t go there.
No matter how much they provoked you in the past, stay cool now. Losing your temper just feeds their ego. Instead, rise above it and leave them wondering how you became so zen.

# Keep the “How Are You?” Light

When they ask how you’re doing, don’t pause or overthink it.
Say something upbeat like, “Great, thanks! Life’s been good.” Smile, keep it breezy. This is not the time to unload your emotional baggage.

# Apologize Only if It’s Genuine

Don’t open old wounds unless there’s something you truly regret.
A sincere, concise apology can offer closure — but explaining or justifying the past can stir up more drama. Only say sorry if it feels right, and keep it simple.

# Don’t Linger

Once the small talk is done, politely excuse yourself.
Hanging around too long can get awkward and emotionally messy. Unless the vibe is really comfortable and you both seem genuinely okay, it’s best to wrap it up and move on.

# Rekindling? Tread Lightly

If old feelings spark back to life, don’t act on impulse.
Even if you feel a sudden rush of chemistry, resist the urge to dive back in. Keep it casual. If you want to reconnect, suggest staying in touch — but don’t rush anything.