Insecurity sucks. We all feel it at some point, and if we could snap our fingers and get rid of it, we would. But for some of us, it’s more persistent and harder to shake off. Learning how to feel good about yourself no matter what is a skill worth mastering.
Because self-love matters. Whatever your goals in life, confidence will carry you further. On the flip side, constantly feeling down about yourself can seriously hold you back.
Yes, we all go through phases of insecurity. But if it feels like your confidence has been MIA for a while, these tips might help you get it back:
# Stop the Negative Self-TalkSeriously cut it out. If all you ever tell yourself is negative, that’s all your brain will remember. Start flipping those thoughts into something positive, even if it feels forced at first.
# Embrace Positivity All AroundDon’t just change how you talk to yourself—change how you view others too. Focus on people’s strengths, not their flaws. When you stop comparing, your own insecurities start to fade.
# Take Action Where You CanUnhappy with something that can be changed? Get moving. Whether it's your fitness, habits, or routines—start making the shift instead of just complaining. Action builds confidence.
# Let Go of What You Can’t ChangeSome things are out of your control—and that’s okay. Trying to fix everything externally won’t fix how you feel inside. Focus instead on accepting and embracing what makes you you.
# Prioritize Your HealthWhen you nourish your body with good food, movement, and hydration, it impacts how you feel emotionally. Physical wellness directly boosts your mental wellness.
# Uplift OthersTearing others down won’t lift you up—it just deepens your own insecurities. Instead, be the kind of person who gives compliments freely. You’ll be surprised how good it makes you feel too.
# Reflect on the Root CausesTake some quiet time to think about why you feel the way you do. Pinpointing what bothers you most is the first step in healing and building confidence.
# Step Out of Your Comfort ZoneTake chances. Try new things. Even small risks can lead to wins that give you a serious confidence boost. The more you challenge yourself, the stronger you’ll feel.
# Lean on Loved OnesIt’s not weak to ask for support. Talk to friends and family. Chances are, they’ve struggled too—and just being reminded that you’re loved can make a huge difference.
# Acknowledge Your StrengthsYes, you have them—plenty, in fact. Make a list of everything you like about yourself. Revisit it often, especially when you’re feeling low. Let it remind you of the amazing things you bring to the table.