8 Ways To Know If He Likes You Back

One of the complications that start in youth is ‘crushes’. And with crushes, come endless questions, the most popular being: Does he like me back?

Crushes are nerve-wracking; you simply don’t know what to do! If your emotions going haywire isn’t bad enough, your mind is plagued by endless doubts. If you have a crush and you haven’t told him, then you start to wonder: Does he like me back? Is this text hinting that he likes me? If you get to know he likes you back, then it is: Why does he like me? Does he only like me for my body or for me? Does he only like me when he’s drunk? Does he like me or is he just being nice?

# Body language betrayal (but the good kind)

Body language is one of the primary indicators of a person’s interest in you. When it comes to guys, there are a few actions that can disclose his intentions. For example, does he lean in when you are talking to him? Does he have prolonged eye contact with you while having a conversation?

Are there moments when you are hanging out with him and you crack a joke which would make people cringe, but he laughs aloud? When you see him, does his face light up?

# He tries to impress you endlessly

Have you ever been out on a date with a guy you really like and he just cannot shut up about his accomplishments and achievements? My friend Camille shared her story, “I went on this date where the guy, although chivalrous, kept bragging about his company and his proficiency in his field. By the end of the date, I was so fed up that I couldn’t get away fast enough.”

It can be quite irritating and off-putting and there certainly are times when you, like Camille, can’t help but think “Does he like me back, or is he just in love with himself?” But in an incredibly twisted way, this is a sign that he likes you.

# He goes out of his way to be around you

It is a common human tendency to want to hang out and spend more time with the people who make you happy. If you are looking for an answer to “Does he like me back?”, pay a little attention to his comings and goings around you. Oftentimes, when guys like someone back, they tend to blow off plans with friends or create plans with you separately to ensure that you end up spending quality time with them.

# He drunk texts/calls you

Growing up with crushes, drunk texts and calls come as no surprise to most of us. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and makes you forward and honest, more so than when you’re sober. It is an old adage that “A drunk mind speaks a sober heart”, and we couldn’t agree more.

A study found that one of the top three reasons for drunk dialing was “called a person you were romantically interested in or involved with to see if they were willing to meet you later in the evening”. According to the same study, intoxication leads to unfiltered honesty which gets expressed when the person drunk dials you.

# He texts you first and keeps the conversation going

There are several ways guys hint they like you through text, and texting you first every time is a clear indicator. Guys do not go out of their way to text someone (unless it’s their mom) and if he texts you first, be it a meme, a “How’s your day been so far?”, or even a simple “Hey!”, be assured that he does like you back.

Of course, texting first cannot be the only indicator. Guys are simple creatures, in the way that if they find you interesting, like you, and want to make sure that you know it too, they will keep the conversation going at all costs. This is one of the major ways guys hint they like you through text.

# He gets jealous

Jealousy, although an ugly emotion, is a sure-fire way to find out a man’s feelings toward you. Research on romantic jealousy in relationships discovered that jealousy in relationships is associated with insecure and anxious attachments. Of course, there are more mature ways to know the answer to “Does he like me back?” but if you are a little juvenile like me, the green-eyed monster always has your back.

If other men flirt with you, compliment you, or even look at you around a guy who likes you back, try as he might, the jealousy will show up on his face and sometimes even in his actions. Just be on the lookout, and you’ll know.


# He teases you and gives you cute nicknames

I had a best friend who had a very specific nickname for me. It’s not like he didn’t have other female friends, he just reserved that nickname for me to the point that I debated whether or not he knew my actual name. Fast forward to a month later, he confessed that he had liked me for almost two months and he wanted to see if we could date.

Playful behavior is a huge indicator of a person’s willingness to engage in romantic intimacy. Giving you nicknames, teasing you endlessly, irritating you – all of these are subtle signals that he likes you and probably wants to be more than friends.

# He wants to know your insecurities and helps you accept them

When you like someone, you want them to be happy and secure in who they are. It is all too easy to get caught up in the web of insecurities and self-hatred, especially with questions of self-doubt like “Why does he like me back?” Feeling inadequate, like you aren’t enough, and that he deserves better than you, are thoughts that can eat you up inside.

However, if a guy gives you time and space to open up and unveil your insecurities and then stays to help you overcome them, can there be a bigger green flag? If you feel secure enough to be the worst (not abusive) version of yourself in front of the guy you like and have him accept you regardless, you can definitely put your doubts about his affections to rest.
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