9 Tips To Help You Deal With Social Distancing from Your Partner

Trust me, I completely understand what you’re going through. The last time I saw my boyfriend was two weeks ago, and honestly, it’s the longest we’ve ever gone without seeing each other since we first met. To put it bluntly—it sucks. Still, despite the distance, our relationship is stronger than ever. It hasn’t been easy, but we’ve found ways to cope with being apart during social distancing.

I miss him terribly, and even though we live fairly close to each other, it sometimes feels like we’re in a long-distance relationship. Those lucky enough to be quarantined with their partners don’t have to face this lonely, confusing period without the person they love. But for many of us, that’s the reality.

Whether you’re an essential worker (and thank you so much for everything you do) keeping your partner safe by staying away, or you simply live apart, this time is undeniably difficult. We’re all dealing with stress, anxiety, and uncertainty—going through it without your partner by your side makes it even tougher.

Social distancing from the person you love isn’t easy. You miss them, you long for their presence, and nothing quite replaces sharing a bed or seeing them in person. But for now, it’s a necessary sacrifice we all have to make.

That doesn’t mean it has to be unbearable, though. Being apart doesn’t mean you aren’t still in this together. With a few thoughtful steps, you can make the distance easier to handle.

# Stay hopeful

Keeping a positive outlook is crucial. Without hope, it’s easy to crumble under the weight of uncertainty. Remind each other often that this is temporary. Let your partner know that this time apart doesn’t change your bond—if anything, it can make it even stronger.

# Create a routine

Experts suggest sticking to a routine while working from home or self-isolating—and that applies to your relationship too. My boyfriend texts me “good morning” every single day, and I always send him a “goodnight” before bed. It’s simple, but it gives us consistency, comfort, and a sense of connection.

# Surprise each other

Just because you aren’t physically together doesn’t mean you can’t keep the romance alive. Send a handwritten note and share a photo of it, fold their clothes they left behind and send a picture with a sweet message, or post something adorable about them on social media. Small gestures go a long way.

# Send little gifts

You might not be able to cook their favorite dish, but you can still send thoughtful packages. Put together a care box with things they might need, toss in their favorite candy from your grocery run, or even something playful to keep the spark alive.

# Exercise together

Whether it’s going for a walk at the same time or video chatting during a workout, moving together can lift your spirits. You’ll release endorphins, encourage each other, and maybe even share a few laughs while staying healthy.

# Plan virtual dates

You don’t need to stop having date nights. Schedule a video dinner date once or twice a week—light candles, use real plates, maybe order the same food, and give each other your full attention. Treat it like a real night out, just from your own dining rooms.

# Have something to look forward to

Plan ahead for when you’ll finally be able to see each other again. Even if you can’t book anything right now, talk about what you’ll do—whether it’s a picnic at the botanical gardens or a weekend getaway. Having future plans gives you both hope.

# Check in on health

Show you care by looking out for each other’s well-being. My boyfriend and I remind each other to drink water and even send thermometer updates when we’re feeling off. It’s a small thing, but it reassures us both.

# Do the little things

Relationships are built on small gestures, and distance doesn’t have to change that. For us, sending each other funny animal videos on Instagram always brightens our day. For you, it might be memes, encouragement, or thoughtful words.