10 Pros And Cons Of Learning How To Date Casually Without Getting Attached

You decided to casually date great! But now you have one problem. You’re not sure how to date casually without getting attached.

We all want to meet someone. Sometimes it’s simply not the right time. Whatever it is, you know a serious relationship isn’t in the cards for you right now. Which is pretty mature. It’s good you’re not jumping into a relationship that you know you cannot fully invest in. Everyone has their own level of comfort with commitment. Some people crave it, and other people run from it. So, before you start to figure out how to date causally, you will want to really sit down with yourself and figure out what the pros and cons are before you embark on this journey.

Pros

# You can keep your options open

Maybe you met someone you like, but you don’t like them THAT much. You don’t feel like they are the kind of person you could spend the rest of your life with.

But you really enjoy their company. They’re cool, fun, and you really like hanging out with them.

When you date them casually, you can keep your eye out for the person who IS right for you. You don’t have to totally sacrifice your dating life just because a person isn’t the man or woman of your dreams. You can have your cake and eat it too!

# You have an occasional companion

Sure, friends are great. But sometimes you just want a companion of the opposite sex to do things with. It just feels different being around someone who is a date instead of just a platonic friend.

Even if you’re not ready to be in a committed relationship with this person *or anyone for that matter*, you can still have the benefit of being in a “sort-of” relationship. It’s like having one foot in and one foot out.

# You can focus on other things

There is more to life than romantic relationships. Yes, they are great. But they don’t have to be the center of your universe. So, when you are dating someone casually, that leaves you time to focus your attention elsewhere.

You can climb up the corporate ladder in your career, spend more time with your friends, and go visit your family. You can even take up a new hobby or start on a health journey by going to the gym.

Your time isn’t going to be wrapped up in just one person. That is one good thing about learning how to date casually without getting attached.

# You aren’t completely alone

A lot of people don’t like being alone. In fact, some people would rather be in a bad relationship than no relationship at all. Not that it’s a good thing to do that, but that’s just how some people feel.

So, if you’re one of those people who don’t like being completely alone, dating someone casually is a great compromise. You don’t have to spend every lonely night wondering when you will ever meet someone – because you already have.

# You can have sex if you want

Let’s face it – a lot of people have casual sex these days. It’s no longer the 1950s where most people thought they had to be married to get laid. This is the 21st century, so you can have sex with whomever you want.

Cons

It can be emotionally empty

When you are dating someone without a commitment, sometimes you can feel emotionally lonely. Serious relationships give you the ability to develop mutual feelings for each other, which can be a beautiful thing.

But when you’re dating someone casually, the expectations of emotions just aren’t there. That’s why they call it “casual.” So, if you’re the kind of person who gets attached pretty easily, this situation might not be for you.

# One or both of you might develop feelings

On the contrary, even though there are expectations of NOT developing feelings, one or both of your might accidentally do just that. And whether it is you or the other person, things can get very uncomfortable quite quickly.

If you catch feelings, then you will feel rejected by the other person, and it could affect your self-esteem. But if the other person starts getting attached to you, and you don’t feel the same way, you might be kind of weirded out by the whole thing.

# The person has no obligations to you

It might sound great to not have any obligations to another person. That means you are technically footloose and fancy free! But sometimes, you want the person you are dating to be there for you when you need someone.

Maybe you had a hard day, and you want to talk to someone. Or you could really use someone to help you paint your bathroom. Well, when you are dating someone casually, they are not obligated to do any of those things for you.

# You don’t have a guaranteed date anywhere

It might be easy to assume that you will have a date every Friday night, but you can’t really count on them for any specific day or time. If you need a date to your friend’s wedding or your company’s holiday party, they may think that’s a bit too much for casual dating.

It could get awkward. You are dating, but not serious. So, asking them to go to certain events that couples usually go to together could cause some confusion between the two of you.

# Managing expectations can be difficult

Even though you both think you are just casually dating, what exactly does that mean? What are the rules for a situation like that? How often will you see the person? Do they spend the night? Is this leading somewhere more serious in the future?

Expectations can be very difficult to manage. It’s best if you are both on the same page about everything, but that takes a lot of open communication. Plus, what if one of you change your expectations and the other one doesn’t?