10 Ways How Is Courting Better Than Dating

Have you ever asked yourself, what is courting? In this fast-paced world, everything moves so fast. So, if you’re not moving at the speed of light, you’re going to be left behind. This is why when it comes to relationships, dating seems to be the norm instead of courting.

You hear both terms when you’re in the dating world, but is one really better than the other? It’s no longer news that hookups have become the norm, especially now in the modern dating era.

And honestly, the more common swiping, casual dating, or hooking up becomes, the less there is a need for courtship. This also goes for dating apps, online dating, speed dating, and the like.We’ll get to the basics of what courting is, and how you can court a woman or be courted by a man, but first, let’s talk about all the reasons why courting can be better. These benefits outline why courting is better for you than dating if you’re looking for something serious!

# You won’t waste your time with the wrong person

When looking at courting as a means to find the right person to go through life with, you won’t waste your time with someone who isn’t right.

A great way to weed through potential partners, it is okay to practically judge someone and say “I don’t think I can see this person as my partner for life” instead of dating them or letting infatuation and sex cloud your emotions.

# You won’t look past warnings

When we date someone or hook up with them, we may see a few red flags right away. But every single time, you’d choose to overlook it because it isn’t worth thinking over, and you’re totally smitten by them already. But then, when the casual relationship does end, you can see all the red flags clearly and you wonder why you even dated this person in the first place!

When you’re trying to court someone or be courted by someone, everything changes. You’re not confused, you’re not completely smitten, you’re paying attention to every single detail about the other person and judging them for it with a clear head.

# You are pickier

When you look at a meet or a date as an interview for your mate for life, you are a lot pickier about who you will go out with. A different attitude than you must kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. If you don’t feel it right off the bat, you don’t try to make it fit.

# You won’t miss the right one because you are with the wrong

Think about all the opportunities you miss when you’re casually dating and juggling between multiple partners. If you are dating someone who you don’t really like for a few months, there’s a very good chance you’re missing out on another great person who may be perfect for you. But because you’re so focused on not being lonely today, you don’t pay attention to the things that actually matter over the long term.

If you go into dating with a traditional courting notion, you don’t jump in and out of love. You don’t mind staying single for a few months or even a few years if that means the chance to build real relationships with people that matter.

# Saves you a lot of heartaches

Instead of having to break up with about ten people whether it is at your hands or theirs, when you look at dating in a courting manner, you don’t have the same heartache.

YOu take it slow, and if it doesn’t work, you know it is okay because they simply weren’t the ones you were supposed to live life with.

# You listen to that inner voice

When we date, we make excuses for red flags that tell us things aren’t right. The problem is, that little voice is supposed to point us in the right direction.

When you date casually and live in the moment, it is possible to wake up one day and be so far in without really thinking it through that you are simply going through the motions.

On the other hand, when you keep in mind that every person you go out with, you are doing so to form a life with them, that inner voice is much harder to shut out.

# You aren’t going to give it up

When you court someone, you want them to have respect for you and to think of you as their potential mate for life. That holds you to a higher standard than if you are just dating.

After all, if you just date, who cares if you sleep with them on the first date, right? You lose nothing if it doesn’t work out. If, however, you look at your time together as a means to a forever union, then you are less likely to make rash and impulsive moves like casual sex that could ruin your chances at a lasting and meaningful relationship.

# You have a plan

There is nothing worse than waking up in a relationship where you moved in together and living as if you are married for years, but nothing official has happened. An ultimatum is not only a tough thing to make, it often doesn’t work in your favor.

If things progressed naturally without a real “plan” in action, or you make your wishes known like “I want a baby by 30,” or “I won’t live with someone unless I have a ring on my finger,” you can find yourself in a relationship that is going nowhere.

By then, you may have passed your prime, and you have no choice but to move along and start over.

# There are expectations upfront

The problem most relationships have is there are no expectations about how things are supposed to go or what each responsibility is. If you aren’t honest with someone about the level of commitment you want in a relationship, you compromise your own needs and wants.

When you begin a relationship with a courting attitude, then everyone knows what the expectations are. You aren’t just winging it hoping to get what you want, or waiting around for someone else to decide when things are right or what your fate is.

# You don’t do things to resentment

When you court someone, everything you do counts. It isn’t as if you can treat someone as if they are temporary until you decide they are someone you want to be with.

You are also less likely to do stupid things that will come back to bite you. When courting, you aren’t playing the field hoping one player stands out, you know who your star player is. You always treat them with the respect they deserve, so no resentment or hurt feelings build when you are ready to make a commitment.