5 Ways To Make Your Child Confident

We spend countless hours as parents trying to make sure our kids are behaving, eating their dinner, and doing their homework. But how often do we take the time to focus on building their self-confidence? Here are 5 simple ways to do just that.

# Never laugh at their ideas, no matter how outlandish they are

Like adults, kids want to be taken seriously. When they get the sense they're being mocked (or laughed at, to their face), their instinct is to get angry, shut down, and not share more ideas for fear of more of the same treatment. After all, kids naturally see the world through a different lens than we do. You might be surprised what you hear once you show your child that you're listening and that you take their ideas seriously.

# Put them in unfamiliar social situations.

My 6-year-old expressed a legitimate interest in football, so I invited him to come with me to a friend's Super Bowl party. No other children were coming, and I made him aware of that. He hesitated for a moment, but then agreed to join me. At the party, it was clear he wasn't completely comfortable and was unsure how to act, especially since he only knew me and the host. But after a while, he was talking about "Star Wars" and lounging on the couch like one of the guys. The only way to establish a level of comfort is to first experience discomfort.

# Have them learn to play a musical instrument

While I don't believe in forcing your own personal interests or hobbies on your children, playing an instrument yields too many positive results for it to be ignored. Once they've reached an age where they're dextrally and mentally capable, learning to play an instrument not only relieves stress (yes, kids have stress, too) but it can also boost self-esteem in a major way.

# Include them in the kitchen

Yes, most kids are far more interested in the eating rather than the preparing of foods, but you'll be surprised by how much one experience can turn things around. One morning we asked our son to be the "assistant chef" when we were preparing blueberry pancakes. Many mornings later, he now often insists on being involved in the kitchen, and he's always incredibly proud of the end product.

# Celebrate their successes

I'm not talking about giving them a gold star every time they eat a carrot. I'm not an "every kid gets a trophy" believer. But in my experience, children react favorably to receiving praise for going above and beyond—naturally, anyone does. However, it's even more important to show children that extra effort will yield benefits in order to instill the idea within them that they're capable of greatness and that hard work pays dividends.