6 Good Things That Can Come From Missing Someone

If I could eliminate one feeling on earth – seriously just one – it would be that no one had to suffer through missing someone.

We go through life with various people at our sides. At first, it is our parents. They are there to support us and, in theory, they have to love us whether we are worthy, lovable, or even likable. That is their sole purpose. But, as we grow, we find people in our lives who don’t have to love us – they just do.

There isn’t any blood relation that ties us, it is just something about our energies together. In our hearts and in our souls, we crave them, long for them, depend on them, and need them.

As wonderful as that sounds, when they are gone, it is like someone took your arm and suddenly you need to learn to function without it. You are just supposed to carry on arm-less.

# You have no one to answer to

When I lost my husband, I was in a fog for a long time. One day I was out driving, and I backed into someone. I mean just rammed right into the back of them. I instantly felt stupid and had that feeling like I was going to have to tell my dad.

Then I realized that I didn’t have to tell anyone. All my mistakes, my misgivings, or things that I did wrong, were all on me. I didn’t have to check with anyone when I wanted to make a decision. I was all on my own and could choose what I wanted without repercussions or disapproval.

# You can completely start over

Sometimes we forget about how much fun dating and meeting new people can be. Dating after losing someone always feels strange, and sometimes it can bring about feelings of guilt.

But, it can also be a fun and exciting time in your life. There are always going to be things that you wished were different in your former relationship. Like maybe you would have liked to find a girl who liked motorcycles or a guy that liked to hike.

Try to take all those things, and go find someone new who likes them like you do. It is a completely new time to be who you want to be, not sacrifice, and find someone who loves to do the same things as you.

# You get an *albeit awful and shitty* re-do

A do-over is one of the best things in the world. It isn’t very often in life that you get to re-do the decisions you make without any guilt or reprisal. Losing someone is like getting to re-do your life and take a totally different turn.

Sure, your life may have been on one course, and now it’s gone, and that just sucks. The thing is, now you get to re-examine and do what you want this time around. With a different perspective than you had before, a do-over allows you to take the road less traveled.

# You learned from your mistakes along the way and can now make them right

All those things that you wish you had done differently, well, you have the opportunity to do it. I never told Colin that I loved him, and that is something I truly regret.

I always promised myself that, in my next relationship, I would tell the person I love exactly how I feel. That way, there isn’t ever a question of how important they are to me. Learning from your mistakes will make your next relationship *should you chose to have one* the best it can be.

Wisdom is a very powerful thing, and can help enrich your life. Missing someone you lost is horrible, but learning from mistakes of the past is how you can make it a positive instead of negative.

# You have the power to move on, all on your own

Sometimes we give up things that we love for other people. It isn’t really a sacrifice, but if things just didn’t fit into your lifestyle, then you probably let them go.

When you lose someone, it is a time to find yourself. Those things that you put by the wayside, thought weren’t in the cards for you, they are all possible now. Think about the things you held back from and the bucket list that you never thought you would get to. Now is the time to do all those things that you wouldn’t or couldn’t in your previous life/relationship.

# It’s your silver lining so go find it

Silver linings are things that are on the inside, but you can’t see them from the outside. What looks like a rain cloud from earth probably looks pretty spectacular when you are close up.

What do I mean by that? If you want to get past the devastation of missing someone, you have to look for that silver lining. The worst thing in the world is losing someone – unless you can find the positive in it.