7 Things That Are Non Negotiable In Relationships

We always hear that in a healthy relationship, you need to compromise. You should be a big believer in that. But, with the importance of compromise comes non-negotiables in relationships.

These are the factors that are most important to you. The things you do not want to budge on. These are your deal-breakers, so to speak. We all have them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

# Respect

Respect is the aspect of every single relationship *romantic or not* that makes things work. Without respect, a relationship cannot last. Although this should be non-negotiable for everyone, it can be hard to admit to yourself.

You may be in a comfortable relationship, but oftentimes respect is lost, and both people just don’t see it.

If your partner puts you down, overlooks your feelings or opinions, or is even rude, it is time to decide if your relationship can be fixed or if you should move on.

# Commitment

Sure, some relationships are open, and they work. But, if you are someone who thrives on monogamy and it is something you cannot and do not want to waiver on, it is non-negotiable.

If your partner cannot commit to you the way you need to be committed to, to feel fulfilled within your relationship, it may be time to say goodbye.

# Passion

Some people may find passion overrated. Sure, it comes and goes throughout the years, but if passion is what you or your partner need in a relationship and the other is not willing to reignite that spark, how do you work through that?

You can communicate your feelings all you want, but when both partners cannot agree on how the relationship works and what you’re are passionate about, you hit a brick wall. You have to decide if that non-negotiable is worth it.

# Family

Whether it be your parents, grandparents, or potential children, our families are huge parts of our lives. If your partner doesn’t get along with your family or you don’t get along with theirs, you can hold your tongue a couple of holidays a year, but if it is more than some tension on the holidays, can you keep up the politeness?

If you want children and your partner doesn’t, will you wait for them to change their minds when you know you won’t? Is the relationship worth it when you can’t get what you want?

Family is not the same as choosing where to order food from or where to go on vacation. Is that something you can change your mind about?

# Finances

Sadly, money is a big part of serious relationships. Do you agree on how to spend and how to save? Can your partner deal with you making more than them? Can they deal with you picking a job for fulfillment over money?

It is a shame that money plays such a large role in our lives, but it is undeniable that money problems end a lot of relationships. Sharing your monetary non-negotiables regularly can keep you both happy, but if you can’t agree, you have a choice to make.

# Future

Plans do not always work out as we hoped. But having a general idea of your future helps you move forward. You do not need to plan out your whole life, but sharing dreams and goals with your partner can be vital to your future together.

If you want to travel the world and your partner wants to settle down, discuss how that will work for you two. Suppose you can’t come to an agreement, that is one of the non-negotiables in relationships for you.

# Ignorance

One big relationship killer is ignorance. In a relationship, you always should be willing to learn from each other and be open to one another’s positions and opinions. Being with someone rigid on change and close-minded can lead to endless arguments.

A non-negotiable for many people is a partner with an open mind.