8 Common Relationship Tips That Ruin Your Love Life

It’s been said that love gets better with experience.It’s true, but it’s not always the case.Sometimes, you don’t need all the experience in the world to be a good lover.

All you need is the willingness to see things from your partner’s perspective.If a surprise can cheer you up, won’t it cheer your partner up too?If their undivided attention can make you feel special, won’t they feel the same way when you give them your undivided attention?

Learn to see your own love life through the eyes of your partner, and you’ll realize just how easy it can be to understand each other and please each other.

The easiest way to learn from the relationship tips you hear so often is by understanding the essence of the idea, and infusing it into your own love life, in a manner that you see fit.

When you fall in love, you need to see yourself and your partner as two individuals who bring their lives together. You don’t necessarily have to share the same likes and dislikes, nor do you have to be polar opposites to make the relationship work.

# You need a lover to feel complete in your life

Have you ever that that line, ‘…you complete me!’? Well, as much as people tell you that having a partner in your life is the only way to feel complete, it’s not entirely true. You don’t need to get into a desperate relationship with someone just to feel complete. You may end up feeling worse than ever if you get into a relationship believing that it’s your purpose in life.

# You won’t find anyone else attractive when you’re in love

Many people will sincerely try to convince you that you can’t find anyone else sexually attractive if you’re truly in love with someone. And if you do think someone walking past you on the street is sexy, you’re supposed to feel guilty about it because you’re mentally cheating on your lover!

But seriously, what’s physical attractiveness got to do with love? It’s completely acceptable to find someone attractive *pursuing the person or having an affair is an entirely different story*, just as long as you understand that the same rules apply to your partner too.

# Space in a relationship separates lovers

Some people believe that lovers need to completely depend on each other to actually experience happiness and togetherness. Truth be told, a good relationship does need dependability and together time, but it also needs a significant amount of space away from each other!

In a happy relationship, both partners need to love each other and yet grow as individuals at the same time. Fail to do that, and at some point of time, you’d end up getting annoyed with your partner who seems to be depending on you to do everything for them.

# Unconditional love always pays off

It’s been said that even the worst of lovers would turn into good lovers when you love them unconditionally and give them time to change. But not all people change over time. A serial cheater who was cheating on you even when both of you were completely happy may always go looking for opportunities to cheat on you no matter how much you love them or try to stop them from straying.

Most people can’t change their personality because it’s who they are as an individual. And if your partner can’t change for you today, chances are, they may never ever change no matter how unconditionally you love them.

# Perfect relationships are effortless

This is the biggest lie you’ll hear. Relationships don’t magically work themselves up to perfection, like the way it’s shown in the movies. You have to make the effort to understand each other and communicate with each other. Don’t take it easy and expect things to just work itself out in the end because, as with everything else in life, good things don’t happen accidentally!

# Having a child together will keep your relationship intact

Having a child together won’t keep you together or bring you happiness. Your efforts will. By bringing a child into your lives, you’re not clearing the emotional mess, you’re only adding to it by sweeping your troubles under a blanket and distracting yourselves with something that needs a lot of responsibility. Try to work on your relationship and make it better before having a baby, or both of you would be bound together, not by love, but by a baby and both your frustrations.

# Arguments in a relationship is unhealthy

Fights and angry arguments are stressful and can hurt both of you. But that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a bad thing. There may be a few couples who get along perfectly without any arguments because they’re more considerate or tolerant. On the other hand, there are many couples who hold their feelings in and explode at each other now and then.

Fights can help partners understand each other and come closer, just as long as both partners learn from the argument and change for each other.

# True passion always stays alive

Passion, just like our bodies, needs the fuel to keep it up and running. Assuming that passion would stay alive by itself is the biggest mistake that new couples make. If you and your partner have sex spontaneously a few times a week, that’s great for you.

But if both of you are like most couples who are too busy in their lives, you need to understand that sexual intimacy rarely builds itself out of the blue. Try something new every few weeks so you can break the monotony of missionary sex, and sex will start to feel just as exciting as it did when both of you first hooked up.