9 Honest Telltale Signs She Is Just Not Into You

The most popular notion is that women are complex creatures. In reality, all it takes is understanding women to understand the signs she’s just not that into you. As hard as it can be to understand a woman’s mind, there are several telltale signs to know whether a girl is into you or just ignoring you.

This feeling might suck as it completely ruins the fantasy in your head of a happily-ever-after, but you just need to face it when she doesn’t feel the same way. After all, you can’t control how she feels about you.

The earlier you know her feelings, the faster you can move on to someone who feels the same. Some ladies like to give their signals loud and clear. And many others are subtle to the point that the average Joe won’t even figure out what she’s trying to say.

Maybe the girl you like is trying to be subtle because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, or maybe she’s being clear, but you’re just assuming she’s playing hard to get! What signals are you getting from the girl you fancy?

# There’s no eye contact

She simply doesn’t look at you. And we’re not talking about sheepishly looking away while she’s blushing. We mean she doesn’t look at you unless she really has to. Eye contact is the most intimate thing for two people to share, so if she refuses to even look at you, she’s not that into you.

Try to test if she’s giving you the look of love by trying out this method. Find a random girl who’s obviously into the guy she’s with. Check out the way she looks at him whens he talks to him, how her eyes twinkle and her mouth twitches to a little smile almost all the time.

Now, find a girl who’s out with a group of male and female friends and colleagues.

Compare how she looks and smiles at her guy colleagues with how the previous girl looks at the guy she likes. If the girl you like looks at you the same way the girl with her colleagues looks at other guys, then you know she’s not interested in being anything more than just friends with you.

# She’s not responsive or she makes excuses

The thing with women is that sometimes, they find it difficult to say no for fear of hurting your feelings. This can work for you or against you. So if she’s always finding excuses to avoid you or to prevent herself from hanging out with you, there’s your answer. It’s not a definite no, but it isn’t a definite yes either.

She’s making excuses to sugarcoat the truth that she isn’t interested in you, so she doesn’t hurt your feelings. If this is the case, then she may not be comfortable with you asking her out or she’s not comfortable with rejecting the advances of someone she doesn’t want to hurt.

# She looks bored or distracted

So you finally got to ask her out on a date. She must be into you, right? Wrong. First dates are full of potential, but they can turn sour really quickly. If she looks bored, has her arms crossed, or fiddles with her napkin, then there’s a slight possibility that this is a pity date.

She went on that date with you because you were too pushy, so she felt backed into a corner with her choice. Or, she felt bad for you and didn’t want to reject you right off the bat, so she gave you a chance.

A pity date is a date girls *and sometimes guys* go on because they sense that someone is really into them, even if they don’t feel the same way. And instead of spending a boring evening doing nothing, they say yes to the date just to pass time, and in the hope that you’ll never ask them out again.

# It’s always a group date

Look, if you’re always in a group whenever you hang out, this isn’t an actual date. Other than the pity date, another date accepted by girls who aren’t into you are the group dates. She lightens the atmosphere by bringing along some of her pals. Sometimes, this could also mean she’s just uncomfortable doing a one-on-one date with you.

This is one of those subtle signs she’s just not that into you, at least not yet. The fact she doesn’t initiate a one-on-one date means she’s not interested in you enough to have a date, but it is possible that she’s testing you while hanging out with you and her friends.

# When you get introduced, it’s as a friend

There’s a difference between being introduced as a casual friend, and as a “friend.” A friend can be anyone she knows, possibly even an acquaintance. However, being introduced while being unnecessarily emphasized as a “friend” with awkwardness or a giggle can signify that you’re just a friend for now, until things progress. But it also means she knows for certain that you like her already.

So for the meantime, this means you’re friend-zoned until you do something about this. Unless you change your strategy or do something, she’ll keep seeing you as a friend and nothing more.

# She talks about other guys she’s interested in

This can mean two things – she’s not into you at all and she’s hoping to deter you from competing with the said guys or she’s telling you that there are other guys that catch her fancy and she isn’t interested in you. If this isn’t already one of the obvious signs she’s just not that into you, we don’t know what you’re looking for.

If she’s into you, she shouldn’t be talking about other guys – end of story. Even if she’s merely asking for your advice on how to talk to other guys, it means she just sees you as a friend and nothing more.

# She doesn’t get dressed up for you

Now, not all women make an effort to look good just for a guy. But sometimes, girls who are into someone would try to put more care into their appearance *e.g. wearing lipstick, wearing attractive clothing, putting on some perfume*.

If she doesn’t care about her appearance around you and especially doesn’t try to appear more attractive, she doesn’t care about what you think, nor is she concerned with pleasing you. Girls might not admit it, but they change even just a little bit of their appearance when it comes to the guy they like.

Otherwise, she doesn’t want you that much.

# I love you… Friend!

Nothing secures your spot in the friend zone as much as these four words. Either man up and tell her your feelings or just accept being so near yet so far from her. There are instances where admitting your feelings can make her see you in a more romantic light.

But there’s also the possibility that she’ll say something along the lines of “I don’t want to ruin our friendship!”

Being in the friend zone may annoy you, and it’s hard to get out once you’re in. But don’t go blaming her if you fell for your friend and want to change the status quo all of a sudden, and she isn’t interested in being anything more. If she constantly says she loves you as a friend, there’s nothing romantic about this at all.

# She’s uncomfortable when you send her gifts, however small

She can be either hesitant to accept it or she’s questioning why you’re giving her a gift when it’s not even her birthday. If she were into you, she’d accept it shyly and maybe even blush. But if she’s not into you, there’s a chance that she’d send it back or ask you not to give her gifts, ever.

We know you were expecting a completely different reaction, but this is because she’s just not that attracted to you. So she’s trying to keep you at arm’s length but refusing your gifts or being hesitant to receive them.