9 Tips To Follow On Finding A Date

When it comes to the introvert-extrovert dichotomy, many people seem to think that being introverts have it rough in the dating scene.It’s quite common to assume that the extroverts get all the awesome dates thanks to their ability to communicate really well.But this is simply not true!Unbeknownst to many, introverts are great listeners who also have tons of stuff to contribute to the conversation.

They’re introspective, sensitive and actually pretty cool people to hang out with.And unlike extroverts, they’d prefer to have a handful of deep, meaningful friendships than a couple of hundred acquaintances.

If you’re an introvert, you may know what it’s like to want some company and not get it.It can be hard for you to approach people and form a deep enough bond with them to ask them out on a date.But just because you’re an introvert doesn’t mean it’s impossible for you to go out on a date unless someone asks you out.So for all the introverts out there, here’s the down-low on dating for you!

# Go online

Going online takes the edge off the pressures of socializing in person. You can think of what you say before sending your messages. Also, it’s a great way for you to meet people based on their interests, where they hang out and what they like to do.

# Take a class, volunteer, join a group

These are great ways to find new potential friends. You’re in a place with a group of different people whom you have common interests with, and chances are, there’s someone there you may take a liking to.

Also, since social interaction is encouraged in a class, perhaps someone would approach you or be your study-buddy, your partner, or your genuine friend.

# Ask your friends for recommendations

Though sometimes your friends may not have your ideal date in mind, many of them have genuinely good intentions. Who knows, you may think you’ve been set up with someone who’s not your type, but he or she ends up sharing your interest in fantasy RPGs, indie music or bird watching!

# Give nights out a shot

It’s probably not your style, but allow yourself to get dragged out of the comfort of your home to get out there and meet someone. Who knows, you might end up striking up a conversation with someone who was worth getting all dressed up for.

# Try to watch how you present yourself

Crossed arms, downcast eyes and fidgety fingers may be your default look, but try to ease out of it every once in a while. Practicing smiling, straightening your back and looking a little more inviting and welcoming. It could transform you from being a wallflower to a charmer.

# Find a date who takes the limelight the whole time

You may think that your ideal date would be someone who can make up for you being tongue-tied quite often. But in reality, it’s best to find someone who appreciates your silence, but still gives you cues that he or she interested in what you have to say.

# Practice short conversations with people you’ve just met

Now, this may come as a real challenge. But a short hello or good morning can help you build up enough confidence. If they conversation goes any further, it’s a great way to practice interacting with people you’ve just met.

# Don’t pretend to be an extrovert

In this case, you can’t fake it till you make it. Not only will the act exhaust you, but your date may find your act contrived. Instead, if you feel shy, admit to it.

Tell your date that you’re an introvert, and that you tend to see and feel things differently from those who are more of an extrovert. It’s by no means a character flaw, but instead, it’s a highly underestimated quirk.

# Watch your body language and appearance

Again, body language matters a lot, especially on a date. Try your best to smile and look towards your date. You don’t have to look him or her straight in the eye all the time, but facing their general direction when you’re talking would really help.

And as for your appearance, wear clothes and shoes suitable for the occasion and gussy up a bit. Your date would definitely appreciate the gesture.