Reasons Why Arranged Marriage Is A Good Idea

Okay, so you have finally agreed to get married and settle down with the guy your parents have been pressurizing you with since so long. Everyone around you is getting married, and you are the only one who does not have any boyfriend. But arranged marriage? Who gets into arranged marriage these days? Don't you need to know the person in and out before marrying him? What if you both are very different? What if you don't like him at all? These must be the questions going on in your mind all the time. Well, let me tell you that every marriage is a gamble. Marriage is an institution where both the partners need to compromise and adjust a bit, be it arranged or love.

The number of divorces of love marriages is rising, and so it can never be predicted beforehand whether a marriage would pass the test of time or would end up in a divorce. There are plenty of incidents wherein the spouses change after marriage and end up fighting bitterly in spite of having had a love marriage. Many successful Bollywood marriages have chosen the arranged marriage way. Shahid Kapoor and Mira Rajput are blissfully settled in their wedlock and have an adorable daughter called Misha. Mira Rajput often speaks about how thrilling it is to marry a complete stranger whom your parents totally trust. She still gets to know new things about him every day and is amazed at how her love also grows every day. So whether a marriage would be successful or end up in a divorce does not depend on whether its love or arranged. There are disadvantages and advantages to both the kinds of marriage. But there are some amazing advantages of an arranged marriage one should know before getting into it.

# Your parents have made all the inquiries before pushing you into an arranged marriage

You might be scared thinking what if things don't go well between both of you. Before pushing you into an arranged marriage, your parents or relatives have found out a great deal about the guy. They have made sure that he is good in every way and would make a perfect match for their daughter. Things like his financial security, his job, his family and his friends. Only after getting 100% assurance about the guy have they considered the option. So you can rest assured about these details and just wish for the best. All the disadvantages are ruled out, and they have made sure that both of you make a perfect match.

# You can always turn upto them if things go wrong

The best part of an arranged marriage is that you are not solely responsible for it. In case, you have a fight or need a third person to sort out some differences between both of you; your parents would love to intervene. They not only feel responsible for your life but you too would feel blessed to have someone to look up to in case of small issues. In many cases, the fight is amicably solved between both the set of parents and the bride and groom live happily ever after. In love marriages, the couple often does not have any well-wishers to help them sort out their differences and hence there is a growing number of divorces resulting from love marriages. These couples often marry against their parents' wishes and hence cannot turn to them in times of trouble.

# Its thrilling to marry someone and then fall in love with him

In a love marriage, most of the couples have had sex before marriage, have known each other for years and have even lived with each other for many years before tying the knot. The only difference is that they have not tied the knot yet but other than that they have lived like married couples in every way. But, in an arranged marriage, you marry a complete stranger. It takes months and sometimes years to know the person in and out, adjust to his ways and make him adjust to your ways. In the process, love happens, and it's beautiful. Both the partners try to adjust to each other's likes and dislike and try to know each other.

# Your spouse will have the same values as you

The advantages outnumber the disadvantages in an arranged marriage. Your parents will choose your groom carefully weighing his good habits, his social skills, status and same values and beliefs. You don't have to be concerned about marrying someone who thinks the opposite.

# It's like you have an official boyfriend

You might find it funny how your parents would force you to go out for a movie or dinner date during your courtship period. It will be like having an official boyfriend whom everyone approves of and wishes you to spend time with. One of the best advantages of an arranged marriage is that everyone around you looks happy with the match and you feel good too making everyone happy in return. Arranged marriages are marriages between two families, and for those who value relations, it's a beautiful bond.

# You feel compelled to stick to each other

Just because so many relatives have been involved in your marriage, you try your best to make it work. In love marriages, the smallest tiff often ends up in a divorce. Couples do not and cannot compromise if things do not work according to them. In arranged marriages, you adjust and compromise keeping in mind the families and the society. In time, you get over your small tiffs, and love grows between the spouses. The patience level is far greater in couples of an arranged marriage than in a love marriage.

# Arranged marriages are socially compatible

Parents make sure that the match is socially compatible. This helps the couple to make their marriage stronger, move out with confidence in society and have children who will be socially accepted too.

# Sex is exciting too

Many times, in arranged marriages, sex happens before love. You share the bed with a complete stranger and only slowly fall in love with him over a period of time. Sex is thrilling, new and exciting. It may take a while before you both even share your sexual fantasies with each other. It takes time to open up and hence there is always scope for better and better sex for years to come.

# You don't have to stress over finding the 'one' for you

You can easily leave that stress and decision making to your well-wishers. It takes a lot of toll and anxiety on finding a perfect match for yourself especially if you have been unable to find anyone suitable and you are getting older and older.