20 Ways To Say 'I Appreciate You' Without Saying It

Think back—when was the last time you truly did something meaningful to show someone special just how much you appreciate them? Now, think about the last time you actually said the words, “I appreciate you.” Chances are, it’s been so long you can’t quite remember who it was—or when it happened.

The truth is, many of us go through life without regularly expressing appreciation to the people who matter most. Sure, we might silently acknowledge, “That was really thoughtful,” but we rarely take the extra step to say it, let alone show it.

As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words—and in the case of appreciation, they leave a far greater impact than a simple phrase that could be said out of habit.

So instead of just saying you appreciate someone, why not show it through your actions? It doesn’t have to be grand or complicated. In fact, there are many simple, heartfelt ways to show someone you care—without saying a single word.

If you’re struggling to come up with ideas, here are 20 thoughtful ways to show someone “I appreciate you” without actually saying it:

# Cook Their Favorite Meal

Preparing a dish they love shows you remember what makes them happy—and you cared enough to put in the effort.

# Say It with Flowers

Fresh flowers are a timeless way to bring joy and silently express gratitude.

# Surprise Them with Tickets to a Favorite Show

Whether it’s a concert or play, gifting them an experience they love speaks volumes.

# Plan a Picnic

Simple, sweet, and personal. A picnic shows you made an effort to plan quality time together.

# Warm Up the Shower for Them

A small but thoughtful gesture, especially on chilly mornings.

# Bring Them Coffee Without Being Asked

Start their day with a fresh cup of coffee made just the way they like it—it’s a warm hug in a mug.

# Create Something Handmade

Handcrafted gifts—no matter how small—carry heartfelt meaning and effort.

# Wear Their Favorite Scent

Wearing a fragrance they love shows you're thinking about them even in the little things.

# Dress in an Outfit They Love

It’s a silent compliment to their preferences and a subtle way to show you care.

# Take Over Their Chores

Handle their to-do list when they’re busy or tired. It’s a quiet act of love and support.

# Scrape Ice Off Their Windshield

In winter, this gesture can be a game changer—and a big sigh of relief.

# Warm Up Their Car on Cold Mornings

It’s a thoughtful move that’ll have them smiling before the day begins.

# Send Them a Hot Lunch at Work

Break up their routine with a delicious surprise from their favorite restaurant.

# Let Them Choose Date Night—Your Treat

Give them full control to pick the plan and let them know it’s on you.

# Pamper Them “Just Because”

Create a relaxing spa experience at home—massages, candles, oils, and all.

# Pick Their Favorite Movie for Movie Night

Let them know you're paying attention to what they love by choosing their top pick.

# Gift Something They've Been Talking About

If they’ve been hinting at something for a while, surprise them with it (as long as it’s within budget).

# Do the Dishes When They Cook

It’s considerate and shows you value the effort they put into the meal.

# Listen—Really Listen—When They Talk

Tune in, engage, and remember the little details. It means more than you think.

# Remember the Important Dates

Mark the birthdays, anniversaries, and big career moments. Remembering them shows you truly care.