10 Steps You Need To Follow While Making Out With Someone For The First Time
By: Kratika Thu, 05 May 2022 3:30 PM
If you were to ask a friend how to make out for the first time, the first thing they’d tell you is that it comes naturally. And they’re definitely not wrong. Arousal and sexual intimacy does come naturally, because it’s in our instincts.
But instincts don’t work in your favor all the time, especially when you panic or get stressed out.
A first kiss is always a bit of a worry, and it doesn’t matter how many people you’ve kissed before. Each kiss with someone new is a whole new experience and you just don’t know how your new sweetie would move or use their lips and their tongue.
If you’ve just started dating someone and are on the verge of making out with them, follow these steps on how to make out and use them. Your sweetheart would definitely be amazed by how good you are, and assume you’re a sex god or a sex goddess who’s a know-it-all when it comes to making out!
# The perfect setting
If you want to have a good time making out, both of you need to feel comfortable in your surroundings. Find a place that’s quiet and isolated where you won’t be interrupted by anyone. Privacy is important if you want to avoid distractions and build the connection.
Even if you get every single thing right, but go wrong with the location, it’s a no-go from the very beginning. So pay attention to the location. And focus on privacy. If I were you, I would even mute my phone discreetly to avoid any silly notifications from ruining the mood!
# Don’t expect the mood to be perfect right away
The way both of you feel at that very moment plays a big part in making out. If you’ve sexted each other the earlier night, or if both of you had decided to finally make out on the next date, don’t assume the mood would be just right when both of you meet up.
Just be yourself, and don’t worry too much about how you’re going to make out. When the moment comes, you’ll instinctively be ready. Play attention to your date’s behavior. Are they being funny? Happy? Bored? Excited about something else?
Wait for the conversations to change into something a little less animated, and a bit more quiet and intimate.
# Don’t be hasty
If you want the first time you make out to be steamy and passionate, don’t rush it. Rushing into it too fast will almost always ruin it. Just relax and sit down with each other. Both of you could watch a movie together, just talk or hang out.
# Build the sexual tension
Both of you may like each other a lot and find each other attractive. But what you do at that particular moment while hanging out together can make everything feel so much sexier, and build the right setting for a perfect make out.
Find excuses to sit down next to each other without making it obvious that you’re coming closer just to make out. Talk softly in a low voice and avoid getting jumpy or overexcited while saying something, or you’ll kill the sensual mood you’re trying to set.
Clasp their fingers gently and talk about something romantic or sweet, like the date or the first time both of you started falling for each other.
# Get close, really close
Warming your partner up before you actually start making out with each other is a perfect way to connect with each other and build the passion even before kissing each other.
Touch your partner or move your index finger gently across the length of their arm or their cheek, and compliment them about their appearance as you’re doing that. Just doing this will get your partner’s heart racing with sexual arousal!
Look into each other’s eyes, and occasionally run your fingers through their hair. Sit down really close and just sink into that moment of sexual bliss, because at this very moment, both of you would be feeling really horny and aroused.
# Don’t kiss immediately
If you feel like the moment is right, you can kiss your partner as soon as you feel it. But if you’re still nervous about kissing, hold that thought. Forcing a kiss on your new sweetheart too soon may make things awkward for both of you, especially if you’re not ready for it. And it may just kill the moment too!
Instead, move your face really close to your partner’s face as you sit next to them. You can rub your nose against their cheek or even kiss their cheek really close to their lips. Or if you want to take it slower, place your palm along the back of their neck, move in close and softly kiss the neck right under the chin or the ear, and just breathe into the kiss. Take your time, and don’t try to rush in at any point. Just enjoy the moment.
# Enjoy the sensation
Close your eyes and enjoy the sensation as you run your hands all over your partner. Breathe into their skin, enjoy the way your hands feel over their arms or shoulders, feel the texture of their hair through your fingers. Wrap your arms around them and run it along the length of their back. Relish the sexual intoxication you feel as both of you run your hands against each other.
# Use the erogenous zones
You can kiss your partner at any point of time, when you feel like it. But every few minutes, take a break from the kissing and enjoy the rest of your lover’s body. Without breaking the sensual moment, move your lips away from their lips. Slowly and passionately, continue kissing them around their lips, their neck or their ear lobes.
Bring your face away from their face, and without breaking the flow, kiss their shoulders, move on and nibble their arm gently and eventually bring their fingers to your lips. Kiss their fingers and run your tongue over their fingers, while moving your hands all over their body.
Every little body part that sticks out like the nose, ears, fingers, toes, ankles, elbows is a potential erogenous zone that is just screaming for your touch when you make out with someone for the first time.
Run your hands and lips all over their body, and you’ll definitely arouse your partner and make them want to explode in sexual ecstasy!
# Perfecting the kiss while making out
One thing you need to remember about the kiss is that it’s just like clasping hands and interlacing fingers with someone else. It’s really simple, isn’t it?
But just to hold each other’s hands, both of you have to move your fingers perfectly while coordinating with each other to make sure your fingers interlace perfectly, right?
A kiss works the same way. Tilt your head slightly to one side, preferably to the right *it’ll help you breathe more easily*, part your lips just a little and place your lips gently against your partner’s lips and kiss them. Don’t move your lips a lot at least for the first few seconds so you can enjoy the sensation without any worry of what you need to do next.
You don’t even need to use your tongue the first time. But if you do want to french kiss your make out buddy, then go ahead and try it. When both of you get the rhythm right *just like interlacing your fingers*, you can push the tip of your tongue softly into your partner’s lips for a few seconds and see how it feels. If you like it, you can go ahead and let your tongue wander just a bit more as time passes.
As long as you don’t stress yourself out and just enjoy the sensation, your instincts will kick in and work its magic.
# Don’t get carried away
Making out is fun and the pleasure is an intoxicating rush. But that doesn’t mean you should get carried away and try something that both of you aren’t ready for. If you do use these moves to the tee, your partner will turn into soft putty in your hands, and they’ll have a hard time resisting anything you do! So you must remember to avoid taking advantage of the situation.
Don’t push your luck when you’re making out, at least for the first time. If your hands wander somewhere that your partner isn’t comfortable with, and they hold your hand back or stiffen up, don’t push ahead in the heat of the moment. Respect your partner, so both of you can have an enjoyable experience.