11 Signs That Tell He Is Using You

People should not be played within a relationship. Unfortunately, those who do play with feelings, tend to be very good at their game. They will manipulate you into believing that everything is just fine and your habit of overthinking is ruining your relationship. But that tiny voice in your head will keep coming back to tell you that all is not well.

It gets incredibly hard to distinguish between what amount of worrying is normal and what isn’t, since nobody tells you the benchmark of normal relationship anxiety. Plus, if you already suffer from self-esteem or jealousy issues, you may be more prone to blowing things out of proportion.

As a result, you’ll be pretty confused about whether the doubts around, “Is he just using me until he finds someone else?” are justified or not. When you bring it up with your partner, he might be quick to dismiss it as insecurities, which then also gives them the perfect excuse to not discuss this issue again.

# He’s quick to drop you if anything else comes up

You are getting ready to hang out with him. You cleared up your schedule for this date. But an hour before the said date he cancels. Or worse, you get stood up, and when you call him, he says it was football night and he and his guys are heading to the sports bar. Sounds familiar?

This kind of behavior is completely unacceptable. If this is happening to you several times, then it’s only natural for you to wonder, “Is he using me because he’s lonely?” It’s a sign he is taking you for granted and you are the least of his priorities. He only hangs out with you when he has nothing better to do.

# Your phone lights up only toward the end of the day

Living such fast-paced lives, it’s impossible to stay connected with a significant other all the time. Also, after a few months of dating, the communication does dwindle a bit. However, if you receive texts from him only after dark and it ends with him crashing at your place, then chances are he is into you just for a place to live.

Women are blessed with a strong sixth sense. And by now the niggling thought that “he might be using me for a place to live” must have entered your head. If it has, then you might as well check up on his living situation. You can confront him directly about it or you can ask his friends or roommates.

# How to know if a guy is using you for your body? Selfish lover

It takes two to tango. Be it on the dance floor or between the sheets. Jamie was handsome with an amazing physique and used to say all the right things, but Marjorie was beginning to feel her dance partner had a bad case of 2 left feet. Marjorie was head over heels in love. Every time Jamie looked at her, she felt butterflies aflutter in her stomach.

# Too much sex

Sex is a very natural and important part of a relationship. It makes the bond between a couple stronger. However, too much sex can also be a problem. Your partner might be addicted to sex. On the other hand, he might just be using you for sex. If you are beginning to wonder how to know if a guy is using you for your body, then just note his behavior before and after sex.

Is he is all sweet and accommodating and turns on his charm full blast before sex, but is cold and inconsiderate after the act is done? Or does he hurry through foreplay and ignore your needs altogether? If so, I am sorry to say that he is indeed using you as a sex object.

# He expects too many favors

When you love someone, you want to fulfill all their wishes to the best of your capacity. You do not want to see them going through any hardships. So, it’s natural that you will want to help out when the love of your life comes asking for a favor.

But when you realize that the frequency of favors is increasing day by day, then you need to ask yourself: Is it possible he is using me for money? As I said, you will want to help out. However, it’s virtually impossible to help someone out all the time. This isn’t exactly the most common relationship problem either, so don’t think it’s normal of him to ask for way too many favors.

# He is reluctant to compromise

A relationship cannot stand if there is no compromise. Both partners have to make space for adjustments for the relationship to work. When only one partner keeps adjusting to the needs of the other without any concession from their side, the relationship becomes unhealthy.

When a guy is not willing to find a middle ground in any situation and expects you to bend to all his whims and fancies, it’s a sign a guy is using you emotionally. It’s best to end things with a person who only caters to their own needs. You deserve better.

# You only see him on his schedule

When you try to reach him, he is busy. But when he calls you, he expects you to give him your time. If you have to continuously make adjustments to your day to accommodate him while he is unwilling to step out of his comfort zone, it’s a sign that he is using you for his pleasure and indulgence.

A relationship needs two people to make it work. If your relationship stands because you are holding it up, then it’s a one-sided relationship and it’s best to terminate it. Talk to him, tell him how you feel. If he is willing to change the behavior, then there is a bit of hope. If he is not willing to work on the problems, then your relationship is already over.

# You haven’t met his people

When a guy is serious about you, believe me, it will show. He will introduce you to his friends and family. Of course, it won’t happen right away. He does need his time to be ready. But if you have been dating for a long time and you have not met any of his friends or siblings, then it can be considered a red flag.

No one can fault you for wondering, “Does he love me or is he using me?” The best way to resolve this is to confront him directly. If he is serious about you, he will try to remedy the situation as soon as possible. If he is not into you, he will be wishy-washy about it. And in that, you will have your answer.

# He doesn’t contribute to the living situation

He seemed quite into you, but after moving in together, things changed. Not only does he not want to spend time with you, he doesn’t even want to help out with the household chores or finances. It could mean one of two things: either he is trying to get you to adopt him, or he is staying with you because he doesn’t have a place anymore. Neither of the options is pleasant.

You shouldn’t have to pick up after an adult. No matter how much he has been pampered. You deserve to be helped around the house. And when he doesn’t even bother to share the finances, you can rest assured his living situation is temporary. You can tell yourself he is using me as a place to live without any doubts.

# He will lead you on

If your relationship is starting to resonate with Charlie Puth’s song, Attention, and you find yourself thinking, “Is he using me for attention?”, you are most probably right. A man who seeks attention will give you the impression that he wants to be with you, but will never actually commit.

He will do everything to please you and will say all the right things to pull you in. He will revel in the affection you bestow on him and will brag about it to his boys. But when it’s time to make things official, he will chicken out. It is best to avoid such toxic relationships altogether.

# He doesn’t put in the effort to take you out on dates

You barely ever go out on dates. When he does put in the effort to meet up with you, it’s Netflix and chill. And we all know where that’s headed. While it’s completely fine to not go out once in a while, if it happens 80% of the time, then it means he is not really into you.

And when he does suggest going out on a date, he’s always finding excuses to get out of footing the bill. Unless it’s blatantly obvious that he’s avoiding the bill, you shouldn’t think something like, “Is he just using me for money?” But if it’s apparent that he is, perhaps you should come up with a few excuses too.