6 Mistakes To Avoid If You Want To Fall In Love
By: Kratika Sat, 28 May 2022 1:38 PM
Whether you lost a relationship or have never had a real one, when you want to fall in love, it is a difficult thing. It is like looking for a drink of water when the faucet isn’t working or needing a light in the dark. The problem is that love is on its own time schedule.
Not only does love come along when you least expect it, but there is also nothing you can do to hasten it… or is there? The mistake that most of us make is to look for love in places that simply don’t make sense. Self-sabotaging ourselves, we go looking for someone to love in impossible scenarios.
# Quit the singles’ bar scene
Sure, singles’ bars are full of what? Singles. The problem is that the harder you look for love, the harder it will likely elude you. Being in a singles’ bar is like putting yourself on the shelves of a grocery aisle.
It isn’t enjoyable, and you are constantly looking either to beat out the competition or score a number 10. There is very little honesty going on in a singles’ bar, and if there is one thing that love is based around, it is honesty. If you want to fall in love, then think twice about these places.
# Start doing the things you love
Instead of going online to an online dating site, try doing the things that you enjoy. Hopefully, you will find love unexpectedly. If you love to hike or canoe, then take a trip with a group. If you meet someone while doing what you love, then you will have something in common right from the start.
When you look for people to love that you have nothing in common with besides physical attraction, it doesn’t make for a very long and peaceful relationship without a whole lot of work.
# Don’t be so picky
If you are saying no to about 90% of the prospects out there, then you may be missing out on the diamond in the rough. Sure, there has to be some attraction, but holding out for your fairy tale Prince Charming may have you passing on a lot of people who could be just perfect for you.
We all have visions of our eyes meeting across the room and instantly knowing, just knowing, that we were meant for someone. That isn’t reality. If you want to find someone to love, stop looking for your soul mate and start looking for someone you’re compatible with.
If nothing else, you will make a whole lot of friends. Keeping your mind open is the only way to find love.
# Go for someone who isn’t your type
We all have a specific “type.” These are the people who make our hearts go pitter-patter and make us tongue-tied, but the problem is that it isn’t working for you. If your type was really what was good for you, and the person you really want in your life, then you probably would’ve already come closer to finding them.
Opposites may attract, but they rarely stay together or have a long-lasting relationship. Instead of seeking out the type of girl or guy that you normally go out with, try going for someone who is a little less characteristic. Your type may just not be very good for you.
# Let people set you up
I know, right? Ugh! What is worse than being set up on a date, or even more horrible… a blind one? If you are tired of people asking to set you up, don’t be. People have a greater likelihood of falling in love with someone who they have a lot in common with, are from similar backgrounds, and have similar ideologies.
If your friend thinks that someone may be perfect for you, stop thinking of it like it is a pity date. In the olden days, people used to get paid to find matches. In fact, they still do. So let your friends do it for free.
The ones who know you best are most likely going to choose someone who may be just perfect for you. Stop letting pride get in your way. If you want to fall in love, increase your chances by letting your friends introduce you to someone who may be the “one.”
# Go alone to places that aren’t comfortable
If you want to find someone to love, you aren’t going to have much luck if you and a friend go to dinner alone. Busting in on girl time is something that may be intimidating for someone from the opposite sex.
When you go places alone, you leave open the possibility of someone asking “Is this seat taken?” If it is always taken, then there is never any place for love to sit down and start a conversation with you.