6 Signs Why He Is Not Interested In Going For A Second Date
By: Kratika Thu, 11 Aug 2022 11:46 AM
It’s a sad but true fact that not all first dates work out. It can be a hard pill to swallow when you see the signs he’s not interested in a second date. You worked through first-date jitters, got your nails done, and bought a new outfit. Rejection stings, but you’ll move on. It might not feel that way right now, but trust us on this one.
The worst part about a first date not being successful is when you don’t realize it. Modern-day dating is made a lot more difficult because many people don’t feel the need to take accountability. Maybe you met online and you don’t have mutual friends to answer to. It makes being disrespectful a lot easier.
So, when a guy is not interested in a second date, he may not come right out and tell you. So, you must figure it out for yourself by learning how to spot the signs he’s not interested in a second date.
# You didn’t have chemistry
Yep, guys feel chemistry too. Sometimes you just feel it or you don’t. For us, it is often a spark. You get that feeling during a first date and you want another, but that feeling isn’t always mutual.Even if you felt chemistry, he may not have.
A great way to figure this out is his body language. Were his arms crossed all night? Was he looking away from you? If so, he may have felt nothing.
Think about if his body was facing you, whether he made eye contact, or touched your hand or arm while talking. If so, he probably felt something. If not, sorry.
# You disagreed on something important
You may have an open mind. Maybe opposing political views are something you are fine with, but he heard you say something that he wasn’t on board with. And, as most modern-day guys, instead of telling you this to your face, he changed the subject and ghosted.
Was there an awkward moment during your first date that you overlooked? Do you have different religious beliefs or plans for the future? Something that seemed minor to you may be a big deal to him.
# You have opposite lifestyles
This is a major reason why a lot of second dates don’t happen. Even if you felt that spark and had a nice time, he may not see a future with you.
If you like to stay at home reading and have one glass of wine a week, while he likes to go to the bar every weekend and travels a lot or vice versa, it could become an issue down the line.
Yes, we know it is a stereotype that guys don’t analyze things like this, but sometimes they actually do. If you talked about how you love to travel and he hates flying, he may have decided against a second date right there and then and only stuck around for the rest of the date to be polite.
# He was too good to be true
Yes, some guys are really that great, but it isn’t always something you see from the first date. We hate to tell you to be suspicious of goodness, but too much goodness can be a red flag. Nobody is perfect and if everything is sparkling and wonderful, there’s a chance it’s just not real.
If he is saying all the right things and making you feel all the good feelings, he may just be a really great charmer. Then, if you didn’t give him what he wanted *i.e. sex* during the first date, he may already be onto the next.
If you were beyond excited about him after the first date, there is a chance it was all an act. We’ve been there, and it sucks to get your hopes up like that.
# You overshared
We are all about being yourself on a first date. If you want to bring up childhood trauma because it is something you are open about, go for it. But, doing that means you should accept that not everyone is that open.
Something that may seem honest and refreshing to you could have been too much for him, especially on a first date. It freaked him out. It doesn’t mean you did anything wrong, but you just aren’t at the same comfort level when it comes to talking about deeper topics.
# You accidentally offended him, or vice versa
Maybe you said you hate baseball, and it is his life’s passion. Or maybe he said something mildly sexist and didn’t realize you were a feminist.
He could be avoiding a second date because he embarrassed himself by sticking his foot in his mouth or because you said something that hurt him.