7 Big Signs Of A Disrespectful Boyfriend

Disrespectful boyfriends seem to be everywhere—like a troubling trend that shows up in all kinds of relationships. They come in all shapes, sizes, styles, and ages. Some may have flashy jobs or charming personalities, but their lack of respect doesn’t discriminate. That’s why learning how to recognize and handle a disrespectful partner is essential.

Some are subtle and manipulative—you don’t even realize how toxic they are until you're already emotionally invested. Others show their true colors from day one.

But in a world awakened by the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements, staying silent is no longer an option. It’s time to speak up and stand strong against disrespect in relationships. These behaviors shouldn't be tolerated or normalized.

Surprisingly, many women don’t even realize they’re being disrespected. Why? Because they’ve been conditioned to think certain behaviors are “normal.” If you're unsure, here are some red flags to help you identify a disrespectful boyfriend:

# He insults or belittles you

If he calls you lazy, stupid, fat, a loser, or uses any demeaning language—this is not just rude, it’s abusive.
He may do this to undermine your confidence, often because he’s struggling with his own self-worth and wants to drag you down with him.

# He ignores you

A disrespectful boyfriend won’t put in effort. He may spend all his time gaming, hanging out with friends, or glued to his phone—leaving you emotionally neglected.
You’re never a priority, and your presence often feels like an afterthought.

# He’s selfish

Your needs, feelings, and desires never seem to matter. You may have expressed what you want in the relationship, but it’s like talking to a wall.
It’s always about him—what he wants, when he wants it. You’re constantly giving, and he’s always taking.

# He doesn’t listen to you

Whether you’re expressing a concern or just sharing how your day went, he tunes you out.
His lack of attention and empathy makes you feel invisible, like your thoughts and emotions simply don’t count.

# He treats you like a servant

You’re expected to cook, clean, do his laundry, and maybe even take care of the kids—alone.
He rarely helps, yet acts entitled to your time and effort. Rather than a partner, you feel more like his unpaid maid.

# He’s abusive

Disrespect often escalates to abuse—emotional, verbal, and sometimes physical.
Name-calling and constant criticism are forms of emotional abuse. But if he ever grabs you, hits you, or physically harms you in any way, it’s beyond disrespectful—it’s dangerous.

# He tries to control you

He monitors where you go, who you see, and what you spend. He may isolate you from loved ones, dictate what you eat, or control your routine.
This isn’t love—it’s control and manipulation, and it’s a major red flag.