7 Tips To Date In Your 30s
By: Kratika Sun, 14 Nov 2021 4:29 PM
The dating world is a scary place to be. This modern age has made dating even more complicated. You could be chatting it up with virtual strangers you met via dating sites one minute, and sleeping with them the next. Has the digital age made it easier for people to find true love? Quite the contrary, finding love has become a lot more complicated.
Dating in your 30s is hard. It is quite daunting, and it can take a lot of effort on your part. You are no longer the girl you were in your 20s. You might see a glimmer of her every time you look in the mirror, but you know that time has made you wiser and more in touch with reality when it comes to relationships.
Sure, you might have made mistakes when you were younger, but that is all in the past. Owning up to those mistakes and challenging yourself to get back in the dating field is a sign of maturity.
# Know what you want
Once you have reached the age of 30, you probably know what you want in life. You are now more in control of your emotions. You can now tell the difference between infatuation and love.
Now that you are more in control with yourself, you have a clearer picture of what you want from a relationship and from life. All those failed dates and relationships in your 20s have taught you what you don’t want, so it logically follows that you’re able to narrow down the options for what you do want.
# Toss out any timelines you may have
Who says that you have to settle down in your 20s, or that you have to nail Mr. Right by 30, or that you should have a kid before 40? When you have to work on a deadline, you will put so much pressure on yourself that you will be tempted to latch yourself onto whoever comes along.
While there is nothing wrong with wanting marriage and a family, never pressure yourself to settle down just because everyone around you is either getting engaged, married, or having a baby.
# Be open-minded
Remember when you had a type? This is the age where you have to be open-minded and date someone who isn’t your type at all. Try dating someone who doesn’t share the same views as you do. Plan a date that goes beyond your comfort zone. Challenge yourself to take your dating game to a whole new level.
# Don’t let the hurts of the past prevent you from having a happier future
The past hurts, that’s the cold, hard truth. As much as we want to wish the past never happened, the mature thing to do would be to learn from it and move on.
Never let your cynical and cold heart prevent you from trusting the next person who comes along. Welcome each date with an open heart and an open mind. Everyone deserves a chance, and don’t let your past hurts hinder you from finding your happiness.
# Let go of relationships that are going nowhere
When you are dating in your 30s, you are looking for stability in a relationship. This is the time to let go of relationships that are clearly going nowhere. Are you still holding on to a dead relationship, where the man has absolutely no intention of settling down and has been a notorious cheater? Now is the time to be realistic, and let go of relationships that will just hold you back.
Don’t stay because you fear the uncertainties of what letting go will do. Don’t insist on staying because you fear that you will end up being alone. Remember that there are far worse things than being alone.
# Look for a man, not a boy
Dating “boys” might be fun and all, but many of these boys will want you to take care of them. Dating a boy can get rather exasperating. You want a man who is emotionally stable and invested in his feelings for you. It would be more advisable to seek a relationship with someone who is already grounded and already has his future planned out.
# Don’t let yourself fall apart
Do not be that emotional wreck who sobs her eyes out while calling random people at 3am, in hopes that someone will listen to her sad story. Remember that you are worth more than your tragedies, and your heart is full of love to give. You are worth more than your brokenness, and your heart will heal if you allow yourself to be healed.