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8 Signs Of A Selfish Husband You Cannot Miss
By: Neha Thu, 26 Jan 2023 6:05:19
The choices your husband makes, both in his life and relationship with you, as well as his behavior with others, is a reliable way to evaluate the signs of an uncaring husband. Have you ever thought to yourself, “My husband wants everything his way and never takes my opinion into consideration”? If this thought has crossed your mind before, then perhaps you might have a selfish husband on your hands.
Given below are the top signs of an uncaring husband that are commonly observed. Dear readers, take note of these in case your partner has been ignoring you or if your husband is not being affectionate. It’s time you seriously consider your worth and try to resolve the situation. Dear men, if you are reading this, it’s time you bring about some changes in your attitude and save your marriage before it’s too late!
# He is always the boss
A husband who is selfish will always get his way by hook or by crook. He is likely to be extremely dominating and unwilling to compromise on even the smallest of issues. He would want things to be done exactly to his liking and his actions will resemble that of a control freak. You may even see him lashing out if anything goes a little wrong on the part of his spouse or anyone for that matter. He wants the perfect food, perfect bed linen, the towels in place, and his wardrobe in order.
He is extremely arrogant and can be very rude when things aren’t done his way. This bossy attitude can make your husband rude and inconsiderate toward you too. If you find yourself living with the realization, “My husband thinks he does nothing wrong”, it’s one of the typical signs of an uncaring husband.
# He is always focused on himself
Selfish people are extremely immersed in themselves. So, one of the classic signs of a selfish husband is he holds himself in high regard and has a high self-esteem, to the point of being full of himself. You won’t find him considering your opinion on trivial matters. For instance, if you’re going out to dinner, he’ll decide the place on his own. Once you’re at the restaurant, he may go ahead and order for you as well without thinking of asking about your preferences. Even when buying gifts for wife or husband, he will buy you what he wants and never considers your likes and dislikes.
# A selfish husband never says sorry
Selfish people in a relationship always find a way to blame their partners for any conflict that takes place. They never take time to introspect and reflect on their behavior. Thus, they never realize that the problem may lie with them as well. They are not receptive to criticism and lash out if their partner calls them out on their mistakes. Besides, they’re convinced that whatever they do is absolutely correct. So, ‘sorry’ is not a word to be found in their dictionary.
# He never thanks you
Is there anything more heartbreaking and exhausting than living with an unappreciative husband? In every relationship, both partners demand (read: deserve) a little bit of gratitude and acknowledgment from their better half. But if you have a selfish husband on your hands, he will be as inconsiderate as ever. One of the signs of an uncaring husband is that he doesn’t appreciate your efforts.
# He doesn’t reach out after a fight
A selfish person almost inevitably has certain narcissistic tendencies, which fuel their desire to always be on the winning side. Rebecca shares with us, “Every discussion with my husband transforms into an argument in no time. And he has this magical power to manipulate me into believing that I am the one to blame for everything. I am simply tired of feeling sorry for no valid reasons whatsoever. There is no winning with him! Could you tell me why is my husband so selfish?”
# A selfish husband always criticizes you
As a loving husband, your partner should be bringing out the best in you by showing you the error of your ways and encouraging you to be the best version of yourself. But there is a huge difference between correcting and criticizing. If your partner is always belittling you and making you feel worthless, these are the traits of a selfish husband.
# He doesn’t compliment you
Women love to beautify their looks and appearances hoping to snatch a sweet compliment or two from their loving husbands. Besides that, they put in so much effort into turning a house into a cozy nest. A lot of hard work goes into it, day in and day out. Wouldn’t it be nice if your spouse would appreciate all the little things that make you so admirable and worthy of acknowledgment? Be it your looks, your efforts to keep the household functional, or your complete work-life balance.
# No displays of affection
A warm hug can make everything all right. Cuddling with each other, holding hands, resting on your hubby’s shoulders, or looking into each other’s eyes are all very meaningful gestures that increase the intimacy in a relationship. However, with a self-centered spouse, such displays of affection are few and far between. He may be open to the idea of you showering him with love, affection, and adulation, but reciprocating them is a concept alien to him. Being married to such a man can be akin to being stuck in a loveless marriage.