10 Ways To Flirt With A Girl Without Being Creepy

DM or direct message is a Twitter post sent to another user and no one, except the recipient, can see the message. Direct messaging is a form of a one-on-one conversation between two people. Do you want to know what a girl finds enthraling as far as direct messaging is concerned? Making comments on every selfie she posts on social media would make you look like you idolize her! So, do you start with the casual ‘what’s up?’ or ‘I think you are beautiful, can we hook?’ Your main aim is to slide into her direct messages. But how can you slide into her DMs in a pleasant manner? Here is your guide.

# Confidence is key in a DM

If you understand yourself, then you know your worth. If you doubt that you are good enough for the girl, chances are that she will reject you. She will not accept a man who will come to mess up with her life but rather one that will stand up for her amidst challenges. You must show a high self-esteem when chatting with her online, especially because no one else knows what’s going on between you two. The internet provides wonderful privacy and there is nothing you should be afraid to talk about.

# Proofread the conversation

Before you hit the send button, find out if there is any mistake you need to correct. Girls are meticulous creatures and they can judge you based on the smallest of mistakes you make. Like you would go over your essay before submitting to your teacher, ensure that your DMs are flawless - from grammar to the coherence. The point is not trying to impress her with your grammar, but rather proving that you are a responsible and careful person. Only send a message when you are sure that you’ve got the game right.

# Know the girl first

To succeed in sliding into her DM, start by establishing a friendship bond. If you tweet her two or three times but you don’t get her replies, she is sending you a message that she is not interested. If that is the case, try a flirty conversation on a regular basis and she will be more welcoming. Ensure that the girl is open to direct message slides. Then find out if she is dating or interested in men (you don’t want to bother a lesbian though).

# Find out if you have common friends

Mutual friends will work in your favor as you try to know her on Instagram. In most cases, girls check for mutual friends whenever they are approached by guys. She will open up to you easily if there are familiar people in your social world. Since online scamming is rampant these days, she would feel safer if she has a follower who follows you too. Then you can move your online crush to a real date if it works in your favor.

# In case it happens, take rejection with maturity

She might not be okay with the concept of DM slides; in which case she won’t reply or tell you directly. There are many reasons she might not want DMs, for example if she is a celeb with millions of followers and has got no time to reply everything! Do not be like the creepy guys who turns out violent and abusive if rejected. You will end up liking like a jerk. Just move on to find another fish in the sea of social media.

# Wait for replies

If your first DM goes unanswered, do not compose anymore. Never try to confront her on her public wall for not answering your messages. You should neither talk ill about her, nor humiliate her because it’s not her fault that your seductive game failed. Be a gentleman and handle her silence with maturity. Again, if she takes too long, do not push her to reply to your DMs. There is no need to bombard her inbox with messages; you will seem desperate.

# Know exactly what you want with the girl

Are you looking forward to establishing a romantic relationship with her or do you want her to be one of your flings? Maybe you are too far away to meet her. Do you think your fantasies will become reality? Making your intentions clear in her DM will help you know if she is interested in you or not. How will she know what you are offering if you don’t put it in a conversation? This does not mean you spell it out in your first message; take some time to know her well. Just ensure that the DMs reflect your real interests. If you are a little creepy and just want to take her to bed, do not be overly romantic: you will break the poor girl’s heart. The key is honesty. For instance, you cannot make any promises if the two of you live in different countries.

# Get rid of the junk stuff

Your online conversation with her must be as natural as the in-person talk you would have. Text her like you would speak to her in public, at least for the first few chats. Later, you can steer the DMs towards the flirty stuff. You must know whether she is willing to take the conversation to a sexual level or not. Try to maintain the conversation between normal and saucy. Girls don’t like to be rushed, be it in bed or normal talks.

# Maintain a minimum thirst

You would look so desperate and creepy sending her ‘good morning sweetheart’ message every day. She will know it’s a copy paste which you use to every girl on your Twitter. To make her notice you, you have to be unique because there are many others trying to woo her. Keep your thirst to a minimum level and play a cool game. Forget about generic subtleties and use exceptional vibes. If you don’t have that much of swag, maintain a casual conversation.

# Know you are not the only guy in her inbox

A girl’s inbox can range from an empty desert to an overcrowded venue. A beautiful girl has countless suitors trying to have their way into her VIP arena. In case she has a thousand followers, she must have a lot of messages to reply and so you cannot coerce her to answer your DMs immediately. If you want to come on strong, make sure that you compose unique messages as opposed to commoners’ clichés. It may sound obvious, but upstaging other men sometimes means having a decent talk with the girl you have a crush on. Say good morning, show your admiration, and do not ask obtrusive questions.