20 Tips To Help You Last Your Marriage For Long

Marriage is a lifetime commitment. People are supposed to marry to procreate, start a family, and cherish their love with their own spouse, children, and grandchildren for the rest of their lives. In other words, marriage is supposed to be built to last.

If there is one good secret to having a lasting marriage, it would be to make oneself ready to enter into this kind of relationship. You should not just marry a person because you have fallen in love and you feel like you already want to spend the rest of your life with her or him.

What if you get married? What happens now? How would you really spend the rest of your life with your chosen wife or husband? It’s natural to fall in love. It’s easy to make a wedding vow. But in order to fulfill your promise, you need to know how you will exactly do that.

To guide you, here are 20 tips to make your marriage healthy and long-lasting.

Be independent from your parents and parents-in-law

Live in a house which is separate from both of your parents. This will give your marriage the freedom it needs to mature and grow in its own way,

Bless your home and your marriage

Blessings are what you earned by doing the right things and avoiding sins. Therefore, bless your home and your family, not only by praying but also by practicing righteousness and avoiding wickedness.

Do not envy other couples or people

Be grateful for the blessings and graces you receive every day. Always thank your wife or husband for the little or great efforts they make to take care and love you. If you see happy couples or families, be inspired and happy to see them instead of being envious or bitter.

Know your marital duties and obligations

Do not be ignorant of your marital responsibilities. Know that as husband and wife, the both of you are obliged to live together, support each other, be honest with each other, be faithful to each other, do procreation, and take care of your children.

Fulfill your marital obligations to each other

Knowing your marital duties is not enough. Hence, don’t just be reminded but do your best to perform those obligations mentioned above.

Surrender your body to your wife or husband

Let your spouse have the authority over your body, and vice versa. This means if your husband tells you not to wear revealing clothes, follow your husband. And for the husband, if your wife tells you not to touch or be touched by other women, then follow your wife.

Love yourself as you love your spouse

Learn to love yourself. Have a balanced diet, do regular exercise, get enough sleep, avoid vices that get you sick, and always improve your personal development. Remember that you cannot love and take care of your family if you can’t even love and take care of yourself.

Be fearless and get rid of your insecurities

Love your wife or husband without expecting love in return. Love your spouse without fearing that someday she or he will be gone. Enjoy giving pure love. Remember that the love you give will never be lost.

Trust your spouse

Realize that trusting your partner is an essential key to having a long-lasting marriage. Know your spouse better. Listen to her or him. Stop making false assumptions. Unless there is clear evidence that your spouse is deceiving you, always treat her or him as a person who can be trusted.

Be trustworthy

Don’t ask your spouse to give you trust. Work hard, earn, and maintain it. Help your better half trust you easily.

Always thank your better half

Thank your wife or husband for the care and sacrifice she or he is giving you. Let your better half feel that everything she or he does to you, even if they are just simple things, they are valued and appreciated.

Have more patience

Stop complaining when your goals and wishes are not yet achieved. Understand that great things are worth the wait. Be calm and do not be easily angry. When you experience trials and challenges in your relationship, consider them as opportunities to strengthen the love and faithfulness in your marriage.

If you get angry, get rid of it before the day ends

Don’t let the day ends with hatred in your heart. Make peace with your wife or husband before the two of you sleep at night.

Be healthy and beautiful for your better half

Continue impressing your spouse. Have good hygiene, maintain your natural beauty, go to the gym, do meditations, and eat a balanced diet to always look stunning for your wife or husband.

Avoid bad and toxic people

Choose your friends and companions. Avoid people who will influence you to sin or do extramarital affairs. Stay away from people who will corrupt your good character and ruin your marriage.

Be mature and choose your priorities

Prioritize your spouse, your children, your marriage, and your family over less significant things like your vices, ego or pride.

Confess your sins and ask for forgiveness

Stop pointing fingers and placing blame on your spouse. Admit your mistakes and sincerely ask your spouse for her or his forgiveness.

Pray to heal and forgive

Meditate for enlightenment and pray for the healing of your heartaches. Take your time.

Practice prudence

Do not be hasty with your actions and decisions. Think twice and always consider the consequences before you make a move or a choice.

Be kind and compassionate

Feel what your spouse feels. Experience your partner’s pain or joy. Have compassion by understanding the innermost needs of your wife or husband. Give your spouse comfort, embrace, kindness, and even privacy if she or he needs them.