6 Lessons That Can Change Your Life
By: Pinki Fri, 09 Apr 2021 4:50 PM
Are you feeling lost in life? Do you feel broken down, and can’t help but feel completely lost with no way in sight? Here’s how you can find your way back.
Feeling lost in life, is a way of life these days. No matter what we’ve achieved or how far behind we are, we can’t help but feel suffocated by anxiety because of all the constant comparisons, and glossed over world of social media.
Sometimes the sensation of feeling lost can creep in when we least expect it, and before we know it, we’re helpless and start to feel that all too familiar sinking feeling of despair and aimlessness.
Before you set out to make history, achieve your dreams, and live your life, there are a few things that you have to work out within your head, so you never have to feel lost in life.
# KNOW YOUR SUCCESS STORY
Now what is it that you really want out of your life? Is it riches, fame, happiness, or something else? Every person’s dream is different, and your friend’s definition of riches and end goals may be very different from yours. Saying “I want to be rich” or “I want to be happy” isn’t the end of your planning. It’s the small details that matter.
Do you want to be rich enough to buy a house and live off debt? Do you want to be rich enough to own a 35 acre villa off the beach side with thirteen cars and nine dogs, and Leonardo DiCaprio as your neighbor? Or do you want enough to make two ends meet? Dreams will change, and passion will take you ahead.
But to start with, you need to benchmark your dream, so you don’t start feeling lost in life along the way. Success is what everyone wants. Think about what exactly you want to attain in your life. Remember, money may be the the first thing that comes to mind, but is that really what you want? And what else do you want along with that?
# WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO SACRIFICE?
Everyone has a threshold for sacrifices. Some push further, and some give up on the very first sign of threat. We work hard, only in the hope of not letting ourselves down, but each day we come across hurdles, big and small, and it’s not easy to overcome all of them without hurting ourselves.
When you want something, you will have to suffer an equal magnitude of pain and loss before you attain it. So ask yourself, are you ready to dream big, or would you be willing to take it slowly, one step at a time, where the pain will be considerably smaller.
Would you be willing to burn the midnight oil? Would you be willing to lose weekends and holidays, cut your expenditures to bare minimum, or would you be willing to cut down on the time you spend with your partner?
# KEY VALUES
When you’re younger and more ambitious, your dreams start and end with money. You think that money will buy you anything and everything. But this is exactly the sort of thing that can get you feeling lost in life and miserable.
Wishing for money and nothing else is an easy choice, to a certain extent, but at one point, you have to draw the line. In reality, money can’t give you everything. It can only give you a push in the right direction.
Yes, money can buy you cars, houses, a grand life and bling bling to show off on Instagram. But instead of looking at money as the end result, look at money as the by-product of your plans. Have a vision, build stronger core values, and if you get these right, money will find it’s way too.
So what is the value you want to be attached with? Do you want to make a difference to lives with your thoughts and ideas, or by making people laugh, or by healing others, or by leading them to better pastures?
This might seem idiotic, but remember, when you do make money at some point of time in your life, your key values will matter more than anything else. Even if this is an early step, give it a thought. Your life will be a lot less messy and you’d be a lot happier when you get there.
# WEIGH YOUR OPTIONS
True passionate people have a goal, and they stick to it. But at times, stupidity or arrogance sets in and we get a murky concoction of passionate stupidity. Just to make sure that you’re not stuck in that mess, have a good plan B.
It’s easy to build castles in the sky, but it’s when you wake up that you realize how hard things can be. Remember, it’s your happiness that matters the most, so listen to the voice in your head, and interpret it well. Instead of trying to make it on top on day one, plan your baby steps. And preferably, choose a career that has multiple options.
Even if you go halfway and realize you’re not cut out for something, you could still progress by choosing an alternate vision along the same lines of your actual dream.
# LOOK BEFORE LEAPING
These days, everyone is extremely ambitious. It’s never bad to be ambitious though. Ambition is the road map to an adventurous life. But embarking on an adventure without careful planning does not make one an adventurer. It makes them a vagabond.
The difference, or the missing link, between a renowned adventurer and a filthy vagabond is pretty slim. Just a simple map, and an idea. So before you listen to the voice in your head and get moving, plan your steps, and be wise enough to plan with your head rather than your heart.
# MEMORIES OF YOUR LIFE
What legacy do you want to leave here when you pass on? What do you want people to say about your life and you as a person? What do you want to be known for? What would you like your obituary to read? Knowing where you want to end up makes choosing the path to get there, and keeping track of your progress, infinitely easier.
When you’re young, you don’t really care about being remembered. All you’re focused on is how you can avoid feeling lost in life. But as age catches up with you, you’d want to do all those things you missed out on in the earlier part of your life.