6 Reasons Why Do Guys Come Back When You Ignore Them

It's a common dating experience that many women may have encountered at some point - ignoring a guy can make him come back. While it may seem counterintuitive, ignoring a man can sometimes pique his interest and even make him come back to pursue a relationship. This behavior may leave many women feeling confused about why it works and whether it's a healthy way to approach dating.

In this article, we will explore the reasons why guys come back when you ignore them. We will delve into male psychology, examine the power dynamics at play, and discuss how ignoring a man can be used to improve relationships. By understanding the reasons behind this phenomenon, women can make informed decisions about how they choose to approach dating and communication with men.

# It is human nature

It sucks but it is true. It is human nature to crave what was taken from you. Have you ever lost a shirt you haven’t worn in ages? You may not even have noticed it was gone for weeks. It isn’t something you particularly cared about, but now that you don’t have it, you want it back.

It is that simple. But, it is also irrational. When a guy is ignored, he lost his access to you. Whether he was keen on talking to you at the time or not, when you take that access away from him, he wants it back.

# There is no closure

He wants to know why you ignored him. People thrive off of incomplete projects. Not all people, but then again not all guys like being ignored. But, think about last time you were ghosted. Doesn’t not knowing why eat away at you?

It takes so much longer to get over being ghosted than a crystal clear breakup. The not knowing why you ignore him is eating at him, and he reaches out to find out. He needs to complete this story and on his terms.

# The attraction of mystery

This is the plot of nearly every rom-com. Say a guy and a girl are friends and are perfect for each other. For some reason, the guy just can’t see that this girl is ideal for him. Instead, he is drawn to the girl he doesn’t know anything about.

When you don’t know what someone is thinking, you can make up whatever you want. So when a guy no longer knows what you’re thinking he is attracted to that. There is a reason people love true crime and murder mysteries. Solving these mysteries is attractive.

# It is not as rewarding otherwise

Putting in the work makes the end result that much more attractive. Think about buying a cake at the grocery store. It is fine, but when you have made a cake from scratch, enjoying it is that much better because of the steps it took to get there.

If you told a guy you liked him after date one, he might be happy with that. But if you left things open for a while and made him work harder to get your attention he would feel like he accomplished more, making your company feel more rewarding.

# The question of ease

When something is too easy, we question it. Have you ever dated someone and thought that they are too good to be true, and then a few weeks in, you find out they’re married. That’s what this is.

If you make things too easy and comfortable for a guy, he will question why. This is not something everyone does, but if he was fooled in the past, he probably can’t help it.

# It’s a competition

It is all about winning. Whether playing hard to get or you just don’t like him, he feels like he lost if you are the one ignoring him. Think about The Bachelorette. Do all 30 guys really like this one woman right off the bat? Or are they thrown into a competitive environment and feel the need to win?

If you cut off contact with him, he lost. If he is a sore loser, he will come back until he can end it on his terms, therefore, becoming the winner.