6 Tips To Learn How To Make Your Boyfriend Miss You
By: Kratika Wed, 24 Nov 2021 08:15 AM
It’s normal! You settle into a groove, you become comfortable, and sometimes that can mean you show your appreciation of the other person a little less too.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate them as much, it’s simply that you’ve become comfortable. Now, we all like to be told that we’re appreciated, loved, and how wonderful we are. If your boyfriend is saying these words or showing you with actions a little less, it might be time to give him a little jolt.
While normal, I’m certainly not saying it’s okay either. You deserve to be told how wonderful you are! Sure, not every single day otherwise it would probably become boring, but we all love to hear it. It helps us feel connected to our partner and keeps the flame alive.
# Don’t be as available for dates and meet ups
It’s quite likely that you’re used to saying ‘yes’ and dropping most things whenever your boyfriend suggests meeting up. It’s also likely that you’re the one suggesting things to do and places to go. Stop doing it. Seriously. Let him come up with some suggestions, and don’t be as available when he asks if you want to do something.
It goes a little like this. He calls in the last minute and asks if you want to hang out that night because his friends canceled on him. You’re free, but you say you’re busy. No, you’re not shooting yourself in the foot, you’re teaching him a lesson! Use that time you’re not doing anything to chill out and relax a little, it won’t hurt him and it might teach him a lesson!
# Don’t pick up the phone or answer messages straightaway
Do you always answer when he calls? Do you reply to messages within minutes? Practice the delay method! Understanding how to make your boyfriend miss you basically relies upon him thinking you’re doing something more exciting and getting his brain working a little. He’s become complacent and that needs to go.
When he calls, let it go to voicemail and call him back a little while later. When he messages, wait a short while before reading the message. It’s not a good idea to leave him on read, as that is likely to cause an argument, but simply don’t allow the ‘read’ tick to show!
# Spend more time with your friends
It’s not a bad thing to spend time with your friends, so it’s time to place them as a priority in your life too, if they’re not already. When we’re in relationships, we often let our friendships slide; I’m certainly not saying it’s right, but it does happen.
This is a great way to learn how to make your boyfriend miss you whilst also benefiting yourself and your friends too.
# Focus on yourself
Take this opportunity to practice self care! Do something you’ve always wanted to do, rather than dropping everything for him. Have a hot bath and read a book. Play a sport or go to the gym. Go out shopping and enjoy yourself for the day. Learn something new.
Basically, focus on number one. Let him wonder what you’re doing and why for a while. The chances are, he’ll start to show a lot more interest and appreciation because he’s concerned as to why you’re not quite as easily available or focused on him as you normally are!
# Use social media to highlight what a great time you’re having
Social media is a two-pronged beast. It can be used for good or for bad. However, use it to strengthen your case a little. Whenever you go out with your friends, highlight this on social media. Showcase what a great time you’re having. Update your status with random quirky quotes and things you’re doing and go to town with the selfies.
This doesn’t mean you’re cutting him out of your life by any means. It simply means you’re expanding your life beyond him and creating a better balance for yourself, while teaching him a lesson at the same time.
# Encourage him to spend time with his friends too
Of course, it’s only fair if you’re out with your friends that you should be fine with him doing the same. Encourage him to go out with his friends. Show him that you’re perfectly fine with it.
He might wonder why you’re telling him to go out alone and make him realize when he is out how much he misses your presence. This might just jolt him back into super-boyfriend mode.