6 Ways To Find An Awesome One Night Stand

Well, the answer is a resounding yes, and there are actually surefire ways to find a one night stand, get them into bed, and have lots of fun without that “what did I do?” feeling come dawn!

If you want to meet, attract, and seduce a potential one night stand, there are actually plenty of ways to go about it. Here are 6 tips to guarantee securing a one night stand without feeling sleazy, or waking up in a full-on relationship!

# Find out where they‘ll be

Some venues simply don’t work if you are looking for a casual hookup. Do some research into local bars and clubs in your area where it is more likely people will be out, looking for a good time.

Quiet pubs, low key nights, or anywhere too fancy should be off your list. Look for places where you know there’ll be a young, fun crowd—where drinks are flowing and music is blaring.

Places with a great dance floor and DJ are your best bet, but also check out whether there is space set aside to sit and chat, too. This combination works well, as you’ll want a place where you can get to know him/her better.

Also think about distance from your apartment/hotel—the nearer the better. At the end of the evening, if you have to get a long cab ride back, it might be off-putting. Plus, they will think about having to get home again in the morning, and how difficult it might be.

# Know what to look for

People who are up for a good time and open to meeting, chatting, and hooking up with others behave differently in clubs.

They’ll be the ones dressed to impress, laughing at the bar, and looking around, making eye contact with others. People who are huddled in groups and keeping to themselves are unlikely to be the best ones to approach.

# Go out with friends but not too many

For your best chances of meeting a potential one night stand, go out with a friend or two with a similar goal in mind. A huge group will be intimidating and distracting, but two or three single people work well.

It also means if you spot someone you want to go home with, you have friends who can chat to their friends, so they aren’t left feeling like a gooseberry, and potentially sabotaging your chances by insisting their friend talks/dances/leaves with them.

# Get flirty, straight away

If you want a hookup, make it obvious. There is no point in getting too comfortable/polite in a conversation, unless you are looking for a new friend or potential date. Be confident, but not crude. Touch, but don’t grope. You’ll soon know if they are interested. If they don’t reciprocate or back off, it may be time to look elsewhere.

Let’s face it: if they aren’t that comfortable getting a little physical when out and about, what is the likelihood they will be up for casual sex later? You don’t want to waste your time if that’s all you’re after, so unless you are up for a real challenge, simply move on!

# Turn the conversation to sex

We all love talking about sex, right? Especially after a couple of drinks! So after you’ve had an initial flirty conversation, try to steer things this direction.

Remember: it’s important not to be creepy or come on too strong, while at the same time making it pretty obvious what you’re after. Compliment them, but don’t be sleazy or too romantic. For example, tell them you think they are sexy and hot—don’t tell them they are beautiful, gorgeous, or that they have nice eyes.

Get close when you’re talking, and whisper in their ear to make it more intimate. Breathing in the other person’s ear is seriously sexy and makes them think about doing it, too!

You need to be able to comfortably talk about sex without bragging or listing previous conquests. Don’t, whatever you do, come across as awkward or desperate. They’ll think that’s what you like in bed and this, understandably, is a major turn off! You don’t have to be too serious, either. Teasing is a great way to flirt, and lots of things about sex are funny, so use humor to laugh your one night stand all the way to the bedroom.

# Understand what is in and out of your control

Whatever you do, keep a cool head, and know you can’t control everything—even if you have mastered all the best hookup techniques.

Their friend might get sick, or something might happen to change the mood. What you can control is the way you approach someone and talk to them, where you plan to go if you do score, and whether you have adequate protection.

Do these things sensibly and well, and if random events mean you lose your one night stand, then just let it go!