6 Ways To Stop Being Shy Around Your Crush

So, if you ever want to have a chance with your crush, learn how to stop being shy around your crush and remove that boundary. Not sure how to do it? Well, good thing you’re here because I’m going to help you out.

When I think about my past crushes, it was brutal. I knew who I was as a person, but when I would get near them, I’d clam up and become someone I didn’t recognize. I was nervous, I would speak only when spoken to, and never really said what was on my mind. I was intimidated by them.

So, how can someone like you back when you can’t even be yourself around them? When you think about it, it’s actually crazy. For me, I never ended up with any of my crushes because I couldn’t connect with them. How could I if I was acting like someone else?

This happens to a lot of us. You know, we put these crushes on a pedestal and then when we are around them, they’re like Hollywood celebrities to us. But they’re just people, people that you like. It’s time to show your crush who you really are. If you want to know how to stop being shy around your crush, here are 6 things you need to know.

# Are you naturally shy or is it low self-esteem?

There’s a huge difference, one to pay attention to. Are you a naturally shy and introverted person or is this stemming from low self-esteem? This is something to consider because it can help explain your behavior. If this is low self-esteem, you don’t have the confidence in yourself to think that they’d like you and why you act shy.

# Work on your low self-esteem

Let’s focus on the reason you’re being shy is because of low self-esteem. If you want to ever have a chance of changing the relationship between you and your crush, focus on working on your self-esteem. Right now, you don’t think you’re good enough for this person and that’s why you struggle with speaking with them.

# Confidence is key

Low self-esteem and a lack of confidence go hand-in-hand. If you want to work on your self-esteem, you need to do things that increase the confidence you have in yourself.

Look at the areas that you’re not confident in and work on them. For example, if you don’t like your body, work on dressing in clothes that make you feel good. It’s all about the small changes that can greatly improve your confidence.

# Prepare yourself

Your self-esteem and confidence isn’t something that’s going to change overnight. So, while you’re working on that, prepare yourself ahead of time before speaking with your crush. If you’re naturally a shy person, this will work great as well. So, before you approach your crush, think about what you want to talk about especially in topics that interest you.

# Keep it simple

Now, don’t prepare a topic about metaphysics, this isn’t what you need. Keep your topics simple. Firstly, your goal is to talk to your crush without feeling overwhelmed and shy. Second, the more complex the topic is, the more likely you’ll freak out, stutter, and lose yourself in the topic. So, instead, keep the topics simple and relevant to the both of you.


# Don’t be afraid to show yourself off

This doesn’t mean you need to put on a one-person show. Though it’s typical that shy people avoid talking about their accomplishments and talents, this is because they don’t want to look like they’re bragging.

But let’s face it, most of our conversations are based on talking about ourselves. You have to show your crush that you’re proud of yourself, this will intrigue them and confidence is a huge turn on.