7 Most Common Relationship Conflict And Ways To Resolve Them

Are you currently in a relationship and having plans to get married soon? Or maybe struggling to make your relationship work? We already discussed about the 9 Reality Advice About Relationship. And now, we’ll provide you the 7 common relationship conflicts that most of the couples experience nowadays and a little advice on how to solve them. Check it out!

# Always apart and seldom together

When do you say enough is enough? It all depends on how you can take it as a partner. But as what they have said, partners who do things together remain forever.

What to Do: If you or your partner is at the peak of your career, always on the go or busy assisting other people with their tasks and just not much time being together, organizing something would be great as long as you both would be able to handle. Plan a date ahead of time, open up with each other about how you feel. Nothing is better than spending time in a place where you can be comfortable and light-hearted for you to relax and feel secure when you open up. Reconnect by going out of town. There is what we called “sexting” just to keep the fire alive while apart.

# You DEVOTE SO MUCH TIME together that you never had a chance to be with yourself and flourish.

Being together as best friends long time before you became a couple is a wonderful foundation. Every single moment being together, doing everything together, might also have a negative impact on your intimate relationship. All of us needs “ME TIME”. This way, we grow more as an individual. Being together doesn’t mean you have to cut loose with your hobbies, friends, and commitments that are confined to the world outside.

What to Do: Give yourself a break. Spend time with yourself and let your partner do the same. Go to places where you’ve never been or just take a walk in the park, do nature-tripping or be with your friends. At first, you will always feel incomplete because you’re not with your partner but in time you will get used to it. The best and most empowering thing to do is go out on a date with yourself once a week and just spend those hours solely to keep your mind busy with things that make you grow more as an individual. If you feel like keeping a journal, do so. The most important thing is — NEVER CHEAT! A time spent alone is always a QUALITY TIME.

# Same Issues That Cause Constant Argument

Running through conflicts of the same issues can take a toll on your relationship. This can be stressful and detrimental no matter what you’re arguing about. From expenses to laundry, sink problems and that twisted expression when he’s disturbed-unlimited.

What to Do: Relationship revolves around you and your partner. Being together makes one feel better inside out, assured in connection with one another and probably a secure place to flourish and spend life with someone special. Always be patient and kind, and inspire them to do the same, particularly with those who are battling anger management and being hot-tempered. Always take note of the things that you are arguing about and give a space whenever sensitive issues arise. If you can’t help yourselves from discussing things until both of you cools off, might as well ask them to sit with you and break down those problems one by one – Unraveling the issues would be the best way to dig deeper and solve the situation.

# Unwanted Family Ties.

None of us chose who our parents would be and if you’re the kind who doesn’t feel liked or connected with their parents, don’t be harsh on yourself.

What to Do: The most important part at this point is knowing who they really are. The mom of your partner may not be good in doing other things like decorating nor baking but just focus on some important details – how she brought up her son and this is what matters. The way they approach and treats you reflects how good they are. But if to some extent you feel disrespected, unwanted, by all means you are not compelled to be with them or even welcoming them in your life. Your partner has a responsibility to stand up and defend you, and be in between if his family becomes too weary.

# You Feel Uncertain of What Tomorrow Will Bring.

You want to pursue your career to a grand scale, while all they’d like to do is to take time off. Or: planning to start having children after 3 years, while they are ending up the relationship with their parents. Or: you’d want to migrate to another country, while they are planning to have a business and not having enough investment for both.

What to Do: “But this is life on earth, you can’t have everything” as what William Goldman says. When in every decision that you’d make, consulting with your partner is the best way to avoid conflicts. Opportunities come once and if by chance you let it go, it might not come again. It doesn’t mean that we failed or wasn’t able to give our best, life was never multidirectional. If you and your partner move in different directions in life, you have to find ways to fulfill both your wishes without sacrificing your dreams in the interest of your relationship. It means finding ways to achieve your dreams hand in hand and steering the inevitable changes to achieve happiness.

# Your partner’s matter of contention is giving you a hard time.

This happens a lot, particularly if your relationship is going through rough roads. Different career paths can sometimes leads to challenges or causing insecurities.

What to Do: There is no easy way to fix this matter, if you can’t understand how they feel. Take time alone with them to talk and be patient enough to listen. It is crucial for the sake of your relationship. Even though giving advice is not your forte, at least be there for a shoulder to cry on. People who are very strong for a long time tends to break down and for that matter be there for them and stay strong.

# The feeling of being misunderstood.

Communication is a way of expressing how you feel and for couples who feel lost whenever they have to talk to their partners about personal matters. There are more ways to settle things on difficult situations.

What to Do: You always tend to imply that you feel misunderstood. This is a usual reaction which tends to disengage from the other and leaves you feeling hopeless and devastated. Open up to your partner, speak rhetorically if needed, casually speak to them as possible and not to worry about what might happen later. Express yourself – and all will be well.