7 Signs That Tell He Is A Player
By: Kratika Wed, 07 Apr 2021 3:38 PM
He’s usually good looking, hot, sexy, and smooth. A bad boy! And a whole lot of other adjectives rolled into one. The player knows all the right things to say to sound genuine and make you fall in love. He knows how to make you feel special. He tells you: “You’re gorgeous.” “I think about you all the time.” “I would never do anything to hurt you.” Has an excuse or rationalization for everything. “Don’t worry about her. She’s a crazy ex.” “I didn’t call because my grandmother was in the hospital. You know how important she is to me.” “I can’t. I must help with at-risk youth that night. Maybe, I can text you when it’s over.”
# Takes you home early
When you go out on a date and the player drops you off early. Or you’re at a club together and suddenly, he decides he wants to leave and drops you off at home. Put your radar up! He’s meeting someone else or saw a hot chick at the club that he wants to hook up with. Can’t be true? He would never cheat? Do some digging. Did he look sick? Was he looking at his phone before he told you it was time to go? Did he take a call right before he told you he wasn’t feeling well? Did he start pushing you away, ignoring you, or disappear for a while? Ask him where he went.
# He’s never alone
Whenever you see him out, whether at a club, a party, or at a local ballgame, he’s got at least one girl with him; usually more than one. He’s always talking, chatting, touching, or flirting with someone or someone’s pawing all over him. He’s never alone! On the rare chance that he’s not with a girl, he’s the center of a group of guys talking about a girl, joking about a girl, leering at a girl, or telling a story about sex. Girls are objects to the player.
# The wholesome girl
You don’t ever see him with a “good” girl. The ones that are looking to settle down and won’t have sex without a committed relationship; the ones who are confident and self-assured. He sees trouble within their eyes. He thinks this kind of girl will trick him into a commitment by getting pregnant and forcing him into a relationship that he wants no part of.
# Closing time
Do you hear from him during the day? Early evening? No? He only texts or calls after midnight? You’ve got a problem. You’re not good enough to take out on a date or to hang out with at the club. You’re the girl he calls when its closing time. He likes the sex, but he doesn’t care about you as a person.
What happens when you run into the player in public? You’ve been seeing the guy for a couple of months and every time you run into him on the street or in a store, he turns the other way. He tells you he didn’t see you. Or, hear you yelling at him across the road. He heard you. He doesn’t want the new girl he’s just met to think he’s seeing someone. He thinks he’s got a chance with her. If he does happen to stop, he won’t look you in the eyes or greet you the same way he does when you’re in private. He basically brushes you off.
# Friends and family
Have you met any of his friends or family? Does he tell you he’s waiting until it’s a good time? “Now’s not right. Maybe someday.” Or does he tell you that he has a strained relationship with his family. Be leery of the “strained” relationship excuse. Especially if it is true. He might have a boatload of baggage he’s carrying around from that strained relationship. Not that every guy who isn’t close to his family is going to commitment issues, but we learn our ideas of what relationships and commitments mean from the interactions we see growing up. He doesn’t want you to meet his friends because he’s thinking of you. He tells you, “You won’t have anything in common with them. I don’t want you to be uncomfortable.” He’s afraid one of them is going to accidently call you by the wrong name or somehow out him for his stream of conquests.
# Only interested in sex
If the only thing he talks about with his friends and you somehow are privy to their conversations, then he’s a player. Players don’t value women as people. If all he talks about is what a girl looks like, what she would be like in bed, or what a girl was like in bed the night before, run far away. If he doesn’t have conversations with you, or take you out, or met you for a meal, you are a booty call.