7 Sure Signs He Wants A Committed Relationship

There is an ugly and untrue assumption that all men are afraid of showing signs he wants a committed relationship with you. It is often assumed in society that women want the committed relationship while men want unlimited sex.

No matter how many old-school rom-coms you’ve seen that say otherwise, this is simply not true.

First, there are plenty of women that don’t want a committed relationship. Second, there are loads of men that want a committed relationship. And your guy could easily be one of them. When you want a relationship with the guy you’re seeing, you can get defensive about how he feels. You can twist small things into big signs. You can take his words and bend them until they fit the narrative you want.

# You hang out with your friends and his

A committed relationship isn’t just about not dating other people. It is about honesty and sharing things. This means introducing you to his world and vice versa.

If he goes through the nerves of meeting your closest friends and wants you to meet his friends, he wants to see how your lives fit together.

# You’ve met his family

Meeting someone’s family is a big deal. I don’t mean a quick wave when you get dropped off after a date, but sharing a meal and small talk. If he introduced you to his parents, siblings, etc., he wants something serious.

# He’s met your family

It is always easier to have someone meet your family than it is to meet someone else’s. If you asked him to meet your family and he agreed, and handled it well, he only put in that effort because he sees something with you.

# He goes out of his way for you

This could be anything from driving far, to helping you with a project. It means even more if he doesn’t expect anything in return. A guy who wants a committed relationship with you cares about you.

That means he will put in the effort to make you happy when you being happy is all he gets out of it.

# He isn’t seeing anyone else

You may not have had the official relationship talk yet but if you both aren’t seeing anyone else that is a good sign. When I first started dating my boyfriend, we were both open to a relationship but it wasn’t necessarily the goal.

After four dates, I told him I hadn’t opened the dating app we met on since we met and that I just deleted it. He said he deleted after we met. That’s when I knew, even if we weren’t there yet that he was ready for a committed relationship.

# He is honest about his past

If a guy isn’t willing to talk about his past, something may be up. Maybe he cheated or is still a bit hurt from a heartbreak. But, a guy willing to tell you the truth and open up about his past is willing to share what he’s learned and is open to more of that.

Some people say leave the past in the past, but our pasts make us who we are today. Sharing those stories with someone new says a lot.

# He asks you questions

Guys who don’t ask you questions about you aren’t interested in anything beyond surface level. I always went into dates asking if a guy was close to his family, how he got into his career, etc.

But if they only ask you to answer what you asked them, they are just being polite. A guy interested in a committed relationship will be genuinely interested in what you have to say.