7 Tips On How To Get Your Guy To See You As A Lady

You have a major thing for one of your male besties: he’s hot, fun, smart, and you guys always have a blast when you’re together. You decide tonight’s the night you’re going to spill the beans on your secret feelings for him, when all of a sudden he sits down next to you, farts and punches your shoulder like you’re one of the guys. Ick.

Let’s face it, “You’re like a little sister to me!” is a horrible phrase to hear from the guy you like. The awful truth is that being “friend zoned” isn’t just something only women do to men. No, this unfortunate occurrence happens to women almost as frequently, with the same frustration and anguish that goes along with it.

# Embrace it

Easier said than done, right? If you can overcome the absolute frustration that goes along with being ignored as the female sex, you may see that you can use your powers for both good and your own evil plans. Are you the “token girl” within your circle of male friends? If so, then you probably have all your male friends flocking to you for girl advice, divulging emotional issues, family problems, inner fears, and all sorts of juicy tidbits coming out of a guy’s mind. Not only is all this stuff fascinating, but you may even be able to use it to your advantage to lure your unsuspecting friend into romance.

# Work on your scent

Ridiculous as it sounds, men like girls who smell good. Many scientific studies point to scent being tied to emotion, memory, and more importantly, attraction. If you’ve only been sporting your body’s own personal musk around your guy-friends, try splashing on some feminine perfume or scented oil around and see what happens.

Pro tip? Men are completely attracted to the scent of vanilla, and the pumpkin pie smell has actually been said to stimulate sexual arousal in men. Double-pro tip? Just ask the guy what scents he likes and wear it around him. This will then clue him in on the fact that you may be into him, while also showcasing how you can have your own take of the scent he likes.

# Stop what you’re wearing

As an empowered woman, there shouldn’t be any reason to change out of your t-shirt and jeans just to appease a man’s preconceived notion of what a “woman” should be. However, if you really want to appeal to your crush, and he’s been otherwise unable to see your feminine side, you may want to consider tweaking your wardrobe… just a bit.

Instead of boot cut jeans and your last ex’s old band tee, try rocking some skinny jeans and a girl’s t-shirt, or blouse. If you desire to be seen as girly, don’t shy away from dressing the part. While busting out a dress or miniskirt may simply result in your guy friends teasing you, he’ll probably be blushing while he’s mocking.

# Express interest in other males and talk about sex

And not just ones on the TV. You may want to do a little bit of innocent flirting with one of your other friends, or a new male acquaintance to see what kind of a reaction you get from your male friends.

Once you begin expressing an interest in having a boyfriend, or start talking about the joys of sex, your male friends may just start to get jealous and put you up on the table as a romantic option. This doesn’t mean you are bringing up “The Dirty” to get your friends to see you as a sex object, rather, you’re trying to show them that you have a vagina, and it likes getting a little action just like every other female they seem so keenly interested in.

# Forgo farting and burping

If you really want to be seen as a lady, you may want to stop with the farting and belching, at least while you’re around your guys. Excuse yourself to the bathroom and relieve your aching belly. Otherwise? Try to build an air of mystery.

# Dance, or show your rhythm

If you’re looking to change up your image, you may want to consider taking your guys out to a party or club and showing them some of your moves. Dance slowly and don’t be afraid to show how rhythmic you can get. Again, this is not simply to show yourself as a sexual plaything.

While you want to show how you can shake it, that doesn’t mean you should be acting like the new-age skank of Babylon. The fact is, both men and women respond sexually to movements, and the more rhythmic your guy can see you behaving, the better.

# Explore the girly side of life

Take a night off from the guys and try exploring something a little more girly. Paint your nails, go dancing, buy a lacy bralette, buy some new clothes, and take an interest in Pinterest, DIY projects, trying fun new hairstyles, and experimenting with makeup.

None of this means you have to give up video games, anime, action movies, or beer night – it simply means you’ll be a well-rounded female exploring the best of both sexes.