7 Tips To Flirt With A Guy At Work

I’m a natural-born flirt. Most of the time I don’t even realize I’m behaving flirtatiously. In fact, it takes so much energy from me to behave in a non-flirtatious manner. And not every woman knows how to flirt with a guy at work.

Some women are naturally flirtatious, while others are not. Neither is good or bad, it just is what it is. Now, being flirtatious can have its downsides, especially when you’re not necessarily trying to flirt with someone. I had my fair share of, “oh… you thought… hmm… well, this is a little awkward,” moments.

But if you’re trying to learn how to flirt with a guy at work, then this isn’t your problem.

# Just relax

You’re probably nervous to flirt with someone but just chill for a second. You’re not asking their hand in marriage, just a conversation with them. That’s basically what flirting is. It’s a conversation with a sexual tone to it. They can decide whether or not they want to flirt back; if they choose to, it’s a good sign. So, why freak out about it?

# Dress to bring out the confidence in you

A lot of people get confused and think they need to dress “sexy” to exude confidence, but that’s not true. You should dress in a way that makes you feel comfortable and confident. If not, you’ll feel insecure about your looks and won’t be able to relax and engage in conversation.

Being confident doesn’t mean dressing sexy. Being confident means wearing clothes that make you feel good.

# Pay attention to your body language

If you approach him with your arms crossed and a giant frown on your face, it’s not saying, “Hey I’m into you, let’s talk.” Rather, it’s saying, “don’t say anything that’ll piss me off or I’ll punch you in the face.” Body language is the primary way we communicate, so present yourself in an open and friendly way. Shoulder back, head up — look approachable.

# Let him engage in conversation

Flirting is a two-way street. Both of you need to engage in the conversation if you want there to be any flirting. You can’t be the only one doing all the talking. So, if he’s flirting back, give him the space to do so. Let him talk and open up to you about his life. Within the conversation, if things go well, you will be flirting naturally.

# Don’t force it

You know if there’s chemistry between you and another person, you can feel it. If there is, flirting will come with time. But if you’re trying to force something on someone who doesn’t feel the same for you, it’s going to be very uncomfortable. If it feels right, go for it. If not, don’t force it.

# Tease him

If you’re not used to teasing people, it’ll take some time to get it right. Teasing is a great way to flirt with someone, but can also do a lot of damage.

You’re trying to light tease him, not bully and insult him. If he says a joke and it’s not funny, you can tease him about it. Lightly poking him is fine, just don’t cross the line. No one likes being insulted.

# Give compliments

Listen, you don’t want to shower him with compliments, it’ll come off as forced and cheap. Compliments should be given when they’re deserved. If you see an opportunity to compliment him, then do so. Everyone likes being acknowledged, it makes them feel good. If he has a new haircut, mention it. He’ll take notice you’re paying attention to the small details.