7 Tips To Help You Stop Being Jealous
By: Kratika Fri, 27 May 2022 4:16 PM
The reason jealousy is called the green-eyed monster is because there is nothing pretty about it. The road to understanding how to stop being jealous is not paved with ease or security. The reason people feel jealous in a relationship is because they feel they aren’t good enough to be with the person they are with.
The key to stopping jealousy is to feel better about yourself, stop worrying about whether someone else loves you, and, most of all, love yourself.
No one wants to be alone, especially when you feel like you found love. But, love is only special when shared by two. If you constantly feel like your time with the person you love is limited and can end at any point, then you aren’t really enjoying it.
# Figure out what makes you happy
Often, we feel jealous when we give too much of ourselves to a relationship. If you find your partner’s needs always come first, they always get to choose, or you just give in all the time, then it is not uncommon to feel jealous. They are enjoying their lives, while you are being someone else and forgetting about your own needs.
If you cater to your own likes and do what you want to do, then you don’t have to envy that you gave up who you are to make someone else happy.
# Be okay with being by yourself
Fear is one of the biggest drivers of jealousy. If you fear being alone, that fear may make you jealous when you don’t really have a cause. We all fear the loss of a loving relationship.
But, if you are always jealous and suspecting of their behaviors, then it just might be that you aren’t okay with losing them. Because you’d be alone with yourself again. If they did cheat and you lost them, you will be okay alone.
# Realize there are a million fish in the sea
Sure, they might be the best thing you ever had, but if you are so jealous that they will cheat on you, they can’t be as awesome as you think. Decide for yourself if they are the type of person that will hurt you by cheating. If you believe they are, then you need to move on.
Stop being jealous, if they choose to hurt you, then they do you a favor. There are many people out there who never would.
# Recognize your own strengths and assets
Stop worrying about them finding someone and think about how lucky they are to have you. When you think you are with a ten and you are a three, then it is easy to feel jealous all the time.
If you wonder why they are with you and fear at some point they will find better, then you don’t see what they see in you. That is not only your loss; it might be the source of you eventually losing them if they can’t curb your jealous nature.
# Mind over matter
When you feel jealous, stop, think rationally, and figure out if it is real or something you created in your head. If you needlessly fear, you likely create a scenario in your head that isn’t real.
# STOP snooping
Constantly checking their actions through social media, going through their phone, or looking for receipts won’t give you the answers you need. In fact, it just adds more fuel to your fire.
You either believe and trust them or let them go. Constantly trying to play the “gotcha” card isn’t fair to your partner. It certainly isn’t doing you any mental favors.
# Think positive unless you have a reason not to
Ever heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy? You might be creating one. If you continually accuse your partner, look for proof of their infidelity, or confront them with distrust, you might get the very thing you are so afraid of. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t trust them.
Your need to prove them a liar and a cheat eventually get olds. You end up losing them, whether they cheat or not. So, what is the purpose of always expecting the worst?