7 Ways To Know If Your Fling Will Become Serious

In this fast-paced world that we live in, flings are pretty much how most, if not all, relationships start. It seems like old school courtship isn’t exactly the in-thing anymore, and most of the getting-to-know-you part just happens through text, chat, or phone calls. It’s as if the internet has become the main tool for this era’s “courtship style.”

Additionally, hookups are so rampant that it doesn’t really matter to people anymore if they have sex with someone they’re not in a relationship with. I guess this is the way our world adapts to its people’s fast-paced lifestyle.

With all of that said, it won’t be such a big surprise if the guy or gal you’re casually screwing on the side turns out to be your next serious partner. You may have started off with a casual flirtationship, but things are starting to get serious. Before you know it, you’re asking yourself, “What are we?”

# Consistency

Consistency is always key in knowing if two people are really into each other. Do you consistently make plans to see each other despite your busy schedules? Do the two of you have constant communication? This could be through texts, phone calls, chats, social media messaging, and the works. If so, then this is most likely because this fling is turning into the real thing.

# Both of you have brought up defining what you two share

Nowadays, labeling seems to always be one of the biggest issues in relationships. Most couples don’t really define what they have until they’re both sure it is something serious.

Obviously, if one of you has brought the topic up and the other agrees, then doesn’t that give the two of you a signal that what you have is most definitely more than just a casual relationship?

# Family and friends know you’re seeing each other

Would you really introduce someone to your FAMILY and friends if that person isn’t someone you want to have a serious relationship with? I think not.

None of us would ever dare to bring a f*ck buddy to meet the parents. Meet the friends, maybe. But parents? Heck, no. The idea itself of letting the people you love know who you’re dating is a clear sign that we consider our “partner” more than just someone to hook up with.

# You go out on real dates

And by real dates, I mean lunch and dinner dates, going to a theme park or setting a beach trip in advance. Real dates mean spending time to get to know each other. If you only go out to have drinks or hang out at your partner’s place, then that sends an awfully wrong message – drinks and hanging out at their place mean you two just want to get laid.

Oh, and the guy should always bring the girl home, we might not live in the olden times anymore, but that’s just how real dates are. Plus, never forget to make a follow-up call/text the day after the date it comes off as rude when you go MIA a day after the date.

# Having sex isn’t the only reason the two of you meet up

Let’s say you and your fling have been hooking up for a seemingly significant amount of time, but then you realize that you two are making plans to actually spend time in the outside world, and you’re not confined to hanging out in the bedroom – you must rejoice because this is an extremely good sign.

The fact that you two enjoy each other’s company and the fact that your relationship does not revolve around sex alone means that what you have is becoming real, if it isn’t already.

# You two make plans for the future

Let’s assume what you have is a summer fling if both of you decide to see each other even after you leave the beach, for example *where it all started*, then that’s kind of the start of something real.

Would you really include someone in your future if you didn’t have intense feelings for them or if your main goal is to keep them as a fling forever? I don’t think so. We make people a part of our future only when we actually see a future with them.

# Exclusivity

This is very important. The most obvious sign that it is becoming real is when you two have talked about being exclusive. A fling isn’t exclusive. When exclusivity becomes a part of the equation, then your fling has evolved into the real thing.