8 Big Signs Of A Jealous And Possessive Boyfriend

Is it so bad to be a possessive lover?After all, all of us are possessive, at least in the first few stages in the nine stages of love when we’re insecure and not too sure of our partner’s love for us.

When you display a sign of possessiveness, you could be seen as a girl who loves her boyfriend a lot and fears losing him.But there’s a thin line between displaying possessiveness as a sign of love, and displaying possessiveness as a sign of control and dominance.

Jealousy and possessiveness can seem extremely cute to begin with.You laugh about it, talk about it with your friends, and you feel really loved and special because there’s a guy who can’t seem to live a moment without hearing from you.

Your boyfriend’s possessiveness reaffirms his love for you, and it makes you feel like you’re the only girl that matters in his whole life!But what if his possessiveness goes too far and stops you from living your own life?How can you tell if he’s being loving or controlling, when you just can’t see the difference? You may believe that your boyfriend is really possessive only because he loves you so much.

# Your decisions

He constantly wants to play a part in any decision you take. And he just can’t seem to accept it if you choose to do something he doesn’t approve of.

# His possessiveness is love

Every time you point out just how possessive he is, he defends himself by claiming that he’s possessive only because he loves and cares about you so much.

# Stalking

He stalks you or tries to find out where you are often when you’re out with a friend by calling you up out of the blue and telling you he wants to see you or meet you, or that he wants to pick you up.

# New experiences

He’s extremely protective about you, and doesn’t want you to do anything new without him. He behaves like your life is in danger when he isn’t around to take care of you, and sulks when you try something new for the first time without him.

# He sees red

He gets really mad over simple issues, especially if it involves another guy. He just doesn’t want you to create any memories or do anything fun with any other guy but him.

# Inquisitive

He’s extremely inquisitive about everything that goes on in your life. And if you don’t talk about something you consider too trivial to talk about, he gets angry or sulks until you tell him all the details, all the time.

# Passwords

He wants to know all your passwords and all your secrets, even if you don’t want to share them with him just yet. He coerces you and threatens you until he gets what he wants.

# You have to answer his call

It doesn’t matter who you’re talking to, but he expects you to answer his call as soon as he calls you even if you’re busy on another call. And if you ignore him because you’re busy, he accuses you of ignoring him or being a bad girlfriend.