8 Little Things That Turn Men Off In A Big Way

First impressions play a big part when you’re trying to win a guy’s affection.Of course, if you know how to bat your eyelids or smile just the right way, you’d be able to get his attention in no time.But while a first impression would get him to notice you, it still takes a few conversations and dates to get him to fall head over heels in love with you.

Have you ever experienced a time where you got a guy’s attention, but he didn’t respond well to you after the first date?Or have you met a guy who seemed completely smitten by you, and all of a sudden, he starts losing interest in you or avoids you after a few conversations?In all probability, you may be doing a few things that are driving the men who like you away from you.

# Narcissism

Being proud of who you are, your achievements and your appearance is always a good thing. But there’s a thin line between a girl who knows how good she is and a vain peacock.

Do you unknowingly constantly talk only about yourself even if the guy tries to say something about his own life? Or do you constantly compare anything a guy brags about to something you’re experiencing yourself? You may think you’re connecting better with him by appearing like a know it all, but your ability to turn anything a guy says into your personal story could come off as arrogance instead of a charming ‘me too’ story!

# Controlling or dominating personality

Do you try to control everything a guy does when he’s around you? If he’s holding his chopsticks in a way you don’t approve of, do you feel the impulsive need to correct him? If it’s an occasional thing you do, that’s completely acceptable.

But if you find yourself constantly controlling or dominating a guy over everything he does or says when he’s with you, be it about his grammar, the places to go to, or your idea of what a good vacation spot is, he’s going to feel deflated and angry very soon.

# Yes or no answers

Are you the kind of shy girl who doesn’t converse and prefer to sit quietly during a date? A guy may be smitten enough by you to overlook this trait of yours initially. But if you just answer every question of his with monosyllables, or avoid asking him any questions back in return, it’s definitely a dating turn off that’ll annoy him or make him assume you’re not interested in getting to know him better.

# Poor social etiquette

This is more than just a turn off, poor social etiquette or bad manners can make a guy feel disappointed and upset by your behavior. Do you take ages to text a guy back to confirm about a date? Or do you excuse yourself to talk to someone you bumped into during your date, and leave the guy alone at the table for several minutes?

Poor social etiquette consists of so many things, like cutting a guy off in mid sentence when he’s saying something, being loud or rude to waiters, ordering a salad and stealing food from the guy’s plate like it’s your birthright to do so, or laughing like a shrieking witch because something’s so darn funny!

These may seem like little things that no one notices, but trust me, these *little things*, well, they’re way more obvious and annoying that you think!

# Unkind attitude

Let’s get this straight. Guys view kindness as one of the biggest attractive traits about a girl. If you’re kind and sweet to others, be it people you know or strangers on a street, it’ll make a guy’s heart melt just a little more.

On the other hand, if you’re rude or too aloof, or lift your nose up and behave like most people on the street are beneath you, he may endure the date, but he won’t call you back.

# Baby talking

Baby talking with a guy or coddling him may be acceptable if you’re already in a relationship with him. But if you’re on the first few dates, talking like an infant, well, it is definitely one of the fastest ways to turn a guy off.

A guy may think you’re being cute if you act girly and sweet, but mouthing words like a baby that’s still learning to talk will only make him cringe. For baby talking to work, there needs to be an intimate bond between the guy and the girl. If you’re still getting to know each other, avoid talking like a baby. It won’t turn him on, and you won’t look sweeter doing it!

# Complaining attitude

When you’re talking to a guy whose attention you want, avoid putting him down or complaining about the things he does. Guys hate girls who pretend they’re high maintenance and act bitchy, and whine about everything the guy does, just to appear like they’re high class and sophisticated.

# Self criticism

Are you the kind of girl who constantly puts herself down, just so others can pull you up again? Do you spend an hour making sure you look perfect, and then criticize yourself in front of a guy by telling him that you think you look really ugly?

This is an attention seeker’s way of trying to get attention and flattery. Getting a guy to acknowledge just how awesome you are by tricking him or constantly criticizing yourself in the hope of getting pampered by him would just leave him annoyed. Guys aren’t dumb and they can see through this kind of attention seeking behavior. And they’d want to stay away from drama queens who just love all the attention they can get.