8 Reasons Why People Hate You

Why do people hate me? That is an awful question to have to ask yourself. But, if you find it creeping its way into your thoughts regularly, it is becoming a real problem.

Sure, not everyone will like you. That is part of life. But hate is a pretty strong word. Hate is more than a dislike or indifference. Hate meaning someone actively has negative feelings toward you.

They don’t talk to you, or worse or mean to you. This sucks. It is not pleasant to feel like people hate you. And instead of accepting it, you probably want to fix it. Or at the very least, know why people hate you.

And there is always a reason. Sometimes it is your fault, and other times it isn’t. It can be due to some character flaws you don’t realize you have or can be more about the person who hates you than you.

# You’re more successful

Jealousy is a powerful emotion – and it’s an ugly one. But so many people are jealous of others who are more successful than they are.

This success could mean simply that you did better in school or have a higher-paying job. Yeah, I know it sounds stupid, but it’s what keeps the whole competitive wheel in motion. People don’t like feeling like losers.

# You remind them of themselves

This is usually the top reason why someone would hate you without having a significant reason. Who wants to admit that they’re flawed? The point is, they probably have more in common with you than you’d realize. They are like you, and that’s why they hate you.

You know that character in your favorite TV show that you find to be cringey and hard to watch? It isn’t because they are opposite to you, but probably because they remind you of the things you don’t like so much about yourself. Make sense?

# You signify their failures

Maybe people hate you because, at one point, you both had the same job, but you got the raise, and they were demoted. Now, every time they see you, they’re reminded of the time where they were told they were less than what you are.

# They don’t have what you have

People may hate you simply because you have qualities that they lack. Maybe you have more Instagram followers, a close circle of friends, a new car – I know this sounds stupid and shallow, but it’s true.

When you compare yourself to others, you get filled with negative emotions for those you wish you were more like. It is why even when your friends are happy in a relationship, and you want to be happy for them, some of you feel bitter.

# You threaten them

I’ve sat next to someone’s boyfriend and talked to them socially, and all of a sudden, their girlfriend comes and gives me a hateful glare. I’ve never spoken to her in my life, but I’m talking to her boyfriend, and that’s too close for comfort. I’m perceived as a threat. Do I want her boyfriend? No. But for her, I’m walking into her territory.

Someone can hate you for something small and insignificant. But, again, this is more about how they see themselves and has nothing to do with you.

# They don’t feel safe around you

People need to feel safe. Do you typically hang out with people you feel unsafe around? Exactly. It could be just the fact that you’re a stranger that they don’t know, or maybe you like to live on the wild side of life. Either way, if it puts people’s safety in question, you’re probably not their favorite.

# You brag

You just love to name-drop and flash all the diamonds on Instagram. There are probably a decent amount of people who think you’re cool, but most people will hate you for this. Why? Because it is tacky and classless. Plus, mix that in with a little jealously… and there you go, you have hate.

# You think you know it all

You went to Yale, we know, we ALL know. And with that Arts degree, you’re the Einstein of our generation, or at least you’d like to think so. Being a know-it-all is not sexy or intellectual. It is a way of putting others down.

Yet, this is a behavior people don’ always realize they are showing off. Even if you always know the answer or want to correct people, let things go. No one wants to be made to feel dumb. Be a little humble and modest with your thoughts.