Changes That Couples Go Throught After Having First Child

As a person grows up, his life also takes a new form. After studies, jobs, relationships, marriage and then comes the number to raise one's own family. When the couple has their first child, their whole world changes. Every single thing starts revolving around that little life. It has many positive and negative sides, which can vary for each pair. We are going to tell some such points, from which perhaps many couples who have become parents will be able to relate.

Increased responsibility

After a child, the responsibility on the couple doubles. Especially on the economic side. From the needs of the child, the new mom needs many things that have to be fulfilled. Due to this, financial Burden also increases. Not only this, there are many things ranging from sleeping a child, taking care of him, carrying his luggage when he goes somewhere, ensuring his safety, future security, which puts the couple in tension. This causes them to experience tremendous stress at times, which can also come in the form of irritability.

Missing romance

Many couples will agree that after having their first child, their romance disappeared from their lives for some time. Actually, since it is a completely new experience for husband and wife, in such a situation, their entire attention and focus is more on the child and his needs.

Women also undergo external and internal physical changes after delivery, leaving them with no courage to think of anything else. Due to all these things, the couple does not think of spending any time or romantic time and does not get time. However, after some time when he learns to handle the situation, then his love life definitely starts returning to the track.

Communication gap

Many couples feel that the communication between them deteriorated as the family grew. In most cases this is because women are engaged in understanding and dealing with children, their needs, changes in their body, etc. after delivery. In such a situation, it becomes difficult to have time to sit with your partner and talk to him.

On the other hand, after delivery, the process of visiting or staying with the maternal uncle, in-laws or other relatives and friends continues. This situation also does not give the couple a chance to talk, causing the communication gap to increase.

Impact on social life

Couples can move around comfortably, hang out with friends, go on lunch or dinner dates before becoming parents, but social life changes completely as a child. They have to think about 50 things before going anywhere. Even if you go out for a walk with the child, you have to maintain it the whole time, which does not allow the couple to spend time as before. Because of this their exit also starts to decrease.

Here’s how you can fix it

Acknowldege and accept the problems

Acceptance is the first step towards finding a solution to any problem, including issues in your marriage post childbirth. It’s time to embrace the changes, both psychological and physical. For a man, the struggle to balance childcare and career might impact his relationship with the wife. Whereas for a woman, her body image issues or lack of time might stop her from getting close to her husband. But problems arise when they are in denial and do not take adequate steps to address these. Sooner they acknowledge the problems, better it is for them.

Identify feelings

When there is a baby in the house, it might not be possible to get physically intimate whenever and wherever. So, learn to identify the feelings of your spouse because when a child is around, he or she might not be as expressive as before. Adjust to the changes and communicate with each other the needs and feelings and address them accordingly.
Ask for help to look after the baby

This is very crucial for new parents—knowing their limitations and addressing those. There is nothing shameful in taking help from a third person, be it from parents or a nanny. This will help the couple to take out some time for each other.

Don’t neglect yourself

With regular nighters and feedings, looking after a baby can be very time consuming and tiring. Which brings us to this important point—lack of time for self-care. You might have many reasons to skip those pedicure appointments or the football match with your friends, but when you take care of yourself, it only makes you feel better and happy. And unless you are not happy, you cannot be in a happy relationship, right?