6 Reasons Why You Are Still Stuck In A Situationship
By: Kratika Thu, 14 Apr 2022 12:39:34
Have you ever been in a sort of relationship with someone? You behave like you’re in a relationship, but the terms haven’t been agreed on. You may have the physical intimacy or the emotional connection or the stellar chemistry, but you haven’t really labeled yourself as being in a relationship. There’s a term for that in our ever-evolving modern dating world: the situationship.
In a situationship, you don’t really feel single, but you also don’t feel like you are in a committed relationship. It is some sort of no man’s land that falls in between. Navigating this grey area can be quite the challenge, even for those who have been in it for a while.
If you go about your situationship correctly, you can get the best result wherein you can transition from just dating to being in a serious relationship. But if you do it incorrectly, you can stay stuck in the grey zone for much longer than you would like.
# You have really mixed feelings for the person
Perhaps the person is very physically attractive or mentally stimulating, but you don’t feel a deep emotional bond with them. Partial satisfaction can, at times, prevent you from completely moving on from the person, for fear *or in some cases, hope* that an emotional connection will eventually form.
You get enough of what you want to keep it going, but not enough to really commit to it. In this situation, it may be best to just break it off completely with the person. There is probably someone else out there whom you are fully compatible with. Taking the time to find another, more compatible mate can be a truly worthwhile investment.
# You don’t feel like being completely single
You might have had a bad break up a little while ago, or maybe you were just feeling lonely. But at any rate, you just don’t want to be completely by yourself right now. This can cause you to settle for a situation that you’re not fully into.
But who knows, perhaps after a few weeks or months of the situationship, you may be ready to go back to the single life and start looking again.
# You don’t feel like being in a full relationship
If you are a commitment-phobe, this could be why you’re still stuck. You may actually really like the person a lot, and they may, in turn, like you just as much, but you had a bad experience in your last relationship, so you are afraid to take the leap.
If you think this might be you, now would be a good time to reflect on the past, and see if you can find some way to get closure from your past relationship experience. After all, you don’t want to miss out on a great new relationship because you have too much emotional baggage from your previous one.
# You’re too distracted
If your life is extremely busy, you may simply not have the time to process things like dating. You may have set up a friends with benefits situation, without even really realizing it.
With work, school, your family, or other priorities in the way, there may simply be too many demands for your time and energy already. This could be preventing you from taking the next step with the person you’re dating. It may be a good idea to sort out your priorities before settling for a “sort of” relationship that you can’t fully invest in.
# You don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings
Staying in an in-between type situation with someone you aren’t that into may just be your way of not trying to hurt the person’s feelings. Maybe you know you are ready to move on, but you haven’t found anyone better yet, so you think, “why not just spare their feelings for a little while?”
In the grand scheme of things, you’re just holding yourself and your partner back from finding what you both truly want. Kind as it may seem to spare your partner’s feelings, in the long run, you’re just preventing them from venturing out and exploring other options.
# You’re too lazy
Although this explanation is really simple, it may be something that you have overlooked. Once you start hooking up with somebody, you can just get into a routine. If you are feeling a little bit lazy, that routine can be hard to break out of.
It’s true that dating around until you find someone you really like can take a lot of effort, but simply settling for someone who’s readily available will just end up making you complacent. After all, nothing worth having ever comes easy.